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We are not complaining, in this place, about a simple problem of discrimination against women in litigation. From this place, we are cautioning the public about a serious situation of maltreatment of women in litigation when these women are mothers. ~Veronique W.

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.......................................In most cases mothers are pathologized or demonized in order to create the appearance of a justification for the extreme actions taken. When the bad decisions backfire in a way that demonstrates even to the courts that the wrong decision was made, the defenders of the courts like to believe these cases constitute the exceptions to the usual good job done by courts. There is now a large body of research about these cases that show there are too many cases with extreme results and flawed practices to be conveniently dismissed as exceptions.” -Barry Goldstein in A Cancer Spreading in the Custody Court System on 16 Sep 2010

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..............................This is another reason why the Battered Mothers Custody Conference is so valuable. At least for that one weekend each year, we are among friends, we can speak the truth, the reality may not be pleasant but at least we can escape the pretend world of the courts and the abusers. It is important for protective mothers to know they are not alone. Other wonderful people are going through the same attacks and being pathologized by unqualified ‘experts.’” -Barry Goldstein in History of the Battered Mothers Custody Conference on 8 Dec 2010

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....... My profile? Intact. Fortunately my own dad was there to stop his fist. ....... Then the courts gave him our baby and finished me off.
PS - To those of you who might think I am nothing but an interfering, critical, histrionic nitwit, let me just say the Supreme Court of Virginia visits my Web site almost every day.

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Yes, Shivani, “sadly Brigitte Deel doesn’t have a facebook.” She has, however, a mother who loves her very much. This is not a secret neighbors at Belmont Country Club should be keeping from her, that is, if she is truly loved by them. I hope the community will lead my daughter to your facebook page.

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A mother won her "greatest fight" by refusing to submit to the judge who tried to abuse her. Click on her video, and as you scroll down my blog, listen for what this non-offending mother told that custody judge who played bully and lost. -Veronique Wyvell

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ADVISORY ... FAIRFAX COURTHOUSE SLAUGHTERHOUSE For Fit Mothers: Virginia judges say a father may hurt the mother of his child, by abusing her, without hurting his chances of gaining custody (mgbb). Judges surveyed for Influences on Judges' Decisions in Child Custody Disputes in the Commonwealth of Virginia further reveal that children over five go to fathers more than they go to mothers when cases go to court (pdf). Pages 4, 6, 7, 20, 21, 23, 24, 29, 30, 38, 39, 40, 41, 53, 55, and 57 in House Document No. 24, A 2001 Report of The Supreme Court of Virginia Office of The Executive Secretary to The Governor and The General Assembly of Virginia, are especially relevant to the current trend of awarding custody of children to fathers who are abusive, controlling, manipulative, violent men, narcissists, and sociopaths (oes). {According to a 1996 report by the Am. Psychological Assoc., fathers who batter mothers are twice as likely as non-violent men to seek sole custody of children (apa).}

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WARNING ... VIRGINIA COURTHOUSES SLAUGHTERHOUSES For Fit Mothers: In Virginia, rulings by custody judges may result in destitution (even bankruptcy) and childlessness for women who are fit mothers leaving an abusive man and escaping a violent relationship. “Custody transfers to abusive men are rare” and other myths as reported by the American Bar Association Commission on Domestic Violence (ABA Ten Myths, 2006), the Leadership Council on Child Abuse and Interpersonal Violence (LC Six Myths, 2006), and the National Council of Juvenile and Family Court Judges Family Violence Department (NCJFCJ Seven Myths, 2003) -- though still rumored by the public -- contribute to the butchering of fit mothers everyday by our state bench. All fit mothers hoping to preserve their resources and their parenthoods should understand those misconceptions now officially recognized -- though still rejected by the public -- about the well-studied connection between “intimate partner violence” and “child custody litigation” before entering any courtroom of our Commonwealth of Virginia. If you are a fit mother who was slaughtered by a state judge in a disputed case involving custody of a child you produced with an abusive and violent man, please join your sisters each fall in Richmond for JUDICIAL INTERVIEWS. {I will post 2010 event date, time, place and relevant vitals here by mid November, or parents may contact Mary Kate Felch directly. -Veronique W. on 10.5.10} ALL MAULED MOMS FROM ALL ACROSS VIRGINIA SHOULD PLAN TO BE IN HOUSE ROOM C OF THE GENERAL ASSEMBLY BUILDING IN DOWNTOWN RICHMOND FOR 'JUDICIAL INTERVIEWS OF INCUMBENTS 2010' ON DECEMBER 10 ALL DAY LONG (Starts at 8:30AM). {I will post here the link for the Felch Agenda & Interview Schedule. -V. Wyvell on 10.22.10} SCHEDULE FOR DEC. 2010 'JUDICIAL INTERVIEWS' NOW VIEWABLE BY CLICKING HERE. Your offending judge just might be up for re-appointment this year! Look for that judge's name in this list. If you have something to say about the performances of Judges Bonnie Davis, Gerald Daltan and Esther Wiggins-Lyles, please join your sisters in saying it. Sign up with Mary Kate Felch today! Several aggrieved moms are booked to speak already! MEETING INFO BY CLICKING HERE (Scroll Down to "12/10/10 8:30 a.m.").

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>>>> No custody judge in Virginia should expect to get away with behaving like a bully. PERIOD.

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A Washington Post article . . . Judge Go Bye Bye 2009 . . . please read it!

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Story by Tom Jackman,
NORTHERN VIRGINIA JUDGE CONFRONTED BY LOCAL MOMS OUSTED

A mother's testimony...took out a Fairfax County circuit judge. The same court had denied her motions to disqualify Zuckerman and remove him from her case.

Va. Judge Selection Process Criticized: Group Challenges Lack of Public Input >>> By Tom Jackman >>> Washington Post Staff Writer >>> Monday, March 2, 2009 >>> www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2009/03/01/AR2009030101882.html (www.box.com/s/y2dr45g485e3tm61nn0y)

Our carnivalesque judicial selection process, the clowning around starts here . . .

Our carnivalesque judicial selection process, the clowning around starts here . . .
House Room C of the General Assembly Building in Richmond, on December 10, 2010, in the moments before it would begin to fill eventually to near capacity with concerned citizens from all over Virginia; many came armed with speeches to oppose the re-appointment of incumbent judges to another term for this year’s “Judicial Interviews.” {Missed it Friday? Don’t fret, there’s always next year. Your offending judge just might be up for re-appointment in Dec. of 2011. So look for that judge’s name in this preliminary list (which is subject to change as judges advance to another court, retire, resign, die or are fired because people just like YOU got involved in this effort to remove unfit, corrupt or otherwise disabled judges), and if you see your judge listed, know that it's not too soon for you to begin to prepare for “Judicial Interviews of Incumbents 2011”: Richard Wallerstein, 7/1/2006-6/30/2012; Glenn Clayton, 10/1/2006-9/30/2012; Frank Somerville, 7/1/2006-6/30/2012; James Almand, 2/1/2004-1/31/2012… Continues on Facebook}

A circus, with our GA apt to certify sub-judges, circuit chiefs do a lot of the hiring

…How can this happen? Why do judges in Virginia issue court orders that can make an innocent-enough person feel like the victim of a “hate crime” when some sensibly administered justice would have sufficed? This can happen to people in Virginia because the judicial selection and re-selection process is deformed and has created a judiciary that is inbred which is producing even greater deformity as judicial rulings deteriorate and as judicial respect--for the dignity and the resources of litigants--decline.... ...Furthermore, I have noticed, when a judge advances to another court in mid-term, his or her interview is postponed, that is, delayed by the length of the term associated with that particular court (minus the number of years remaining in the old term): 6 years for district court, 8 for circuit, 8 for appeals and 12 for supreme. With the Judicial Performance Evaluation (JPE) program now cancelled by decision of the 2009 legislative session, “interviews,” known officially as “Judicial Interviews of Incumbents,” is the only screening mechanism in place, acting to protect citizen-consumers of legal services from defective judges. The event is annual and it really is Virginia’s ultimate oversight agency for the judiciary because even “Judicial Inquiry and Review Commission” board members must submit to “interviews.” But, and especially since most members of the general public do not go to “interviews,” it is mostly a “rubber-stamp affair.” Citizens, tragically, are skipping “interviews” because it is such a poorly promoted event, and sitting judges, apparently, are skipping “interviews” because jurists promoted before the end of their term slip through such a poorly designed system for screening them.... Our Carnivalesque Judicial Selection Process, read more, http://mommygobyebye-virginia.blogspot.com/2009/05/referendumtime-dumb-disgusting-outright.html


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FOREWORD by Robin Yeamans, Esq. }find her on facebook

I never refer to a case as "high conflict." When you dig down to the bottom of a case labeled "high conflict," you find domestic violence and abuse. The two sides are not identically culpable. -R.Y.
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"If so, what does that relationship look like?" -Eric Holder*

"If so, what does that relationship look like?" -Eric Holder*
*Former judge on the Superior Court of the District of Columbia (Photograph clickable)

Commentary "A" by the APA Public Interest Directorate in a 1998 Report of the American Psychological Association Presidential Task Force On Violence And The Family on ISSUES AND DILEMMAS IN FAMILY VIOLENCE beginning WHEN PARENTS SEPARATE AFTER AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP, SHOULDN'T FATHERS HAVE AS MUCH RIGHT AS MOTHERS TO BE GRANTED PHYSICAL CUSTODY OF AND VISITATION RIGHTS WITH THEIR CHILDREN? and Commentary "B" by the American Judges Association in a 2002 Court Review Special Issue on DOMESTIC VIOLENCE beginning THE PARENTING OF MEN WHO BATTER

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Focus of January 2011 BMCC VIII will be to connect mothers

Focus of January 2011 BMCC VIII will be to connect mothers
Register online for Dr. Hannah's next conference by going to BatteredMothersCustodyConference.org (Click announcement)

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I personally receive calls, e-mails, and letters from protective mothers all over this country, as well as overseas, begging for help with their cases. The overriding theme is that their abusive ex-partner already has won or is about to "win" custody of their children. Ladies, think this could never happen to YOU? All you need to do is have a biological child with someone who is psychopathic, narcissistic, abusive, or otherwise sick enough to be willing--in his efforts to harm you--to cause massive harm to your child, as well. His task is simple enough; all he has to do is lie and manipulate the court system, making wild claims that you are a "fabricator," "crazy," "addicted," or an "alienator." He can then pay off all the court agents who are willing to do his bidding and take everything he says as the gospel truth, in exchange for his right to exercise power, control, and abuse over you and your kids until they reach majority age. The family court system, as it seems to currently operate, amounts to little more than a black market that gives children and babies to the highest bidder. The ONLY thing keeping this Potemkin village-like fiasco going in our family courts is the secrecy that cloaks the misdeeds. We need a deeply serious and impartial investigation of the family court systems of all 50 states, conducted by authorities with the will and the power to massively reform this corrupt machine. See http://www.batteredmotherscustodyconference.org/ for additional documentation about the family court fiasco. -Dr. Mo Therese Hannah, BMCC Chair and Protective Mothers Advocate, in public comment two years ago, in 2008

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Court appointees make profit by placing children in harm’s way. -Dr. Phil Show

Court appointees make profit by placing children in harm’s way. -Dr. Phil Show
Dr. Phil is now talking about it. If you missed the original airing of “Crisis in Family Court” on 14 April 2010, catch a rerun by checking his website regularly for its list of future shows. (“Crisis in Family Court” was repeated recently on August 14 and August 18; DVDs and transcripts can be ordered at DrPhil.com)

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Dr. Phil is looking for victims of “parental alienation” for an upcoming show: “Victim of Parental Alienation?” (“Do you believe that your ex-spouse, or soon-to-be ex-spouse, is preventing you from seeing your child? Do you believe that your ex is currently committing ‘parental alienation’ by making it very difficult OR preventing you from seeing your son or daughter? If you would like Dr. Phil’s help in mediating this issue and you’re also willing to appear on TV, please e-mail your story.”) Upcoming show topics also include: “Ex-Spouse Causing Your Child To Hate You?” (“Are you separated or recently divorced and you fear that your ex-spouse is alienating you from your child? Have you noticed a negative change in your child’s attitude and behavior towards you? Do you feel that your ex-spouse is the reason why your child is mistreating or ignoring you? If you would like Dr. Phil’s help in mediating this issue and you’re also willing to appear on TV, please e-mail your story.”) and “Who’s Right???” (“Is there a person in your life that blames you for everything? Do you want them to accept responsibility and end this blame game? Is someone in your life not admitting the harm they've caused you? Do they refuse to admit they are wrong? If so and YOU ARE WILLING TO APPEAR ON THE SHOW, tell us your story.”) -VW on 9.7.10

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Watch Kathleen Russell on Dr. Phil's "Crisis in Family Court"

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Q: What does the Zuckerman say? A: “Quack! Quack!”

Q: What does the Zuckerman say? A: “Quack! Quack!”
Court appointee William B. Zuckerman, Ph.D., telephoned a leader of the fathers’ rights group in Virginia and offered to help member fathers win custody. DR. ZUCKERMAN DIDN’T KNOW HE WAS TALKING TO MY FRIEND. William B. Zuckerman, Ph.D., never has telephoned a leader of the mothers’ rights movement in Virginia and never has offered to help member mothers gain custody. -Veronique Wyvell (Click pic)

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“Dear Miss: I came across your website when researching Dr. Zuckerman. As you can see from my signature below, I am an attorney. Opposing counsel is attempting to use Zuckerman to assist her client. I believe he is offering terrible advice which is hurting the family more than helping the situation…” ............ -A D.C. lawyer and professor of law at GW, in a spring 2010 message for Miss Veronique Wyvell

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Virginia judges have been forcing parents to watch SPARE THE CHILD since 2000 (video). The Virginia Supreme Court gave Dr. Zuckerman a lead role in the film (letter).

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Sandra Havrilak: She’ll spit on justice even if it means spitting on our children

Sandra Havrilak: She’ll spit on justice even if it means spitting on our children
Find “Support the Disbarment of Sandra Havrilak” on facebook and join the cause. ~Veronique Wyvell {Havrilak lies, Havrilak cheats, Havrilak steals: http://www.box.net/shared/4lv1tb8rz8 for “The Letters 5” (or click image) and http://mommygobyebye-virginia.blogspot.com/2007/12/mark-e-rubin-senior-advisor-to-governor.html for “MARK E. RUBIN SENIOR ADVISOR TO THE GOVERNOR: ‘I can assure you that this information will be considered if Ms. Havrilak’s name comes up…’” (a response from Richmond)}

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Batterers, Barratry, Bedlam and Boycotts

}THE JUDGE AS BATTERER (NO WONDER THAT, MORE THAN EVER BEFORE, WOMEN IN DOMESTIC VIOLENCE CASES EVERYWHERE ARE ON THE RUN, BOLTING WITH THEIR CHILDREN, IN A GLOBAL BACKLASH AGAINST BARRATRY AND A WORLDWIDE BOYCOTT OF THE BENCH): A SAMPLING OF 25 YEARS OF SUPPORTING LITERATURE [Click book cover for an ever growing list of authorities on The Bedlam]

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Family courts, endangering children and punishing women

Family courts, endangering children and punishing women
Order online Dr. Hannah's new collection (with Mr. Goldstein) at CivicResearchInstitute.com

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Mother's Day 2010 at the White House

Peaceful Silent Vigil at The White House in Washington DC on 9 May 2010 Mother’s Day. "A cottage industry of mental health professionals and attorneys with cozy relationships with family court judges routinely bankrupt families with enormous court-ordered fees and often recommend that children be placed with their sexually or physically abusive fathers. Family court judges frequently ignore evidence of abuse, refuse to hear direct testimony from the children, and rubberstamp their cronies’ recommendations. Nurturing mothers are forced to pay costly fees to attend supervised visits with the children they raised, watching helplessly as their children continue to report abuse by their abusers to uncaring visitation monitors. Mothers who speak out about system failure often face judicial retaliation and lose what little time they have with their children. The unregulated cottage industry churns away, generating hundreds of thousands of dollars in fees to experts, while some of the worst cases settle only when the children turn 18. This is a national epidemic that is destroying families across America." (Photograph clickable)

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See the album at Facebook’s Center for Judicial Excellence: “Justice, Accountability, Children's Safety”

"Stop Court Crimes!"

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Sarah, in the 2005 PBS documentary Virginia is refusing to air*

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*"I'm, like, what kind of a person would take you away from your mom?" ... {Regarding little Sarah’s relegation to “day care”: Custody judges in Virginia routinely strip mostly stay-at-home mothers of their babies, toddlers, preschoolers and young children for commitment to full-time and year-long (summers included) placement in day care centers, that is, institutional care by total strangers, or for confinement with live-in and live-out nannies hired by abusive fathers; my own Brigitte was 2 when Judge Vieregg took her out of “mommy care” and gave her to a working couple and commercial care.} ~Veronique Wyvell~ Or, www.box.com/shared/ij7bvyuu7m

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The Custody Judge A "Key Abuse Collaborator"

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. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . J U S T I C E . . W A N T E D . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . My custody order is incoherent. With one document the judge relies on the report and recommendation of a court appointee and removes and replaces the court appointee, a forensic evaluator (the same Child-Sparing screwball and father-puppet that from a witness stand had barked "She doesn't blink! Most people blink!" in testimony on the impact of my eyelid movements on my mothering skills) refusing for 12 years to let me see my raw psychological test data. I'm seeking an attorney who will agree this circuit ruling is not logical and help me suspend/annul the order. I'm not asking for a trial, just a motion to restore the JDR decision of July 1999, our only true & valid order. Veronique Wyvell (tel 703.748.0072), from February 1999 to Oct. 2015, victim of judicial battery, parental persecution, gang rape, highway robbery and general bullshit in the courts of the Commonwealth of Virginia, County of "Fair-facts"

TROY DEEL HAS PROBLEMS NOT CUSTODY … MOTHER IS BRIGITTE’S LAWFUL PARENT

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No oversight, no accountability, no justice

No oversight, no accountability, no justice
"Fairfax County Circuit Court Judge Arthur B. Vieregg Unimpressed by Testimony of Preacher for United States Supreme Court Chief Justice William H. Rehnquist, My Boss the Reverend Dr. George W. Evans" is the title of one of my favorite mommy go bye bye blog postings. Justice Rehnquist attended Sunday services at the church that employed me. He liked our preacher. The preacher liked me. Judge Vieregg, however, didn't care much for either one of us.

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Mothers with a problematic legal case involving Vieregg, the circuit judge, and Zuckerman, the forensic psychologist, should contact me: The evidence has suggested Judge Arthur B. Vieregg and Dr. William B. Zuckerman may have owned real estate together or shared the same residential or mailing address; Vieregg appointed Zuckerman to conduct the Deel/Wyvell custody evaluation. The experience of your Mommy Go Bye Bye blogger has been that these two clowns are nothing more than, and her wish is for readers to take this quite literally, a couple of m----- f------ crooks. (Mr. Vieregg is now with McCammon.)

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THE IMPORTANT NUMBERS TO JUDGE VIEREGG AND DR. ZUCKERMAN HAD NOTHING TO DO WITH MY DAUGHTER’S AGE. Very early in Deel v. Wyvell the question would change from “Where’s the mistake?” to “Who’s making the most mistakes?” Vieregg sat for 3 big trials in 18 mos., in the matter of Brigitte, ages 2-3.

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How do we stop bad judges in Virginia? We start by clicking this poster

How do we stop bad judges in Virginia? We start by clicking this poster
This poster is linked to the community page on Facebook where citizens can retrieve a list naming the judges slated for re-appointment interviews in December 2011 and instructions for signing up to speak to stop the re-appointment of unfit and corrupt judges in Virginia: http://www.facebook.com/pages/Judicial-Interviews-of-Incumbents-2010-Richmond-Virginia/138253656230064. It depicts William B. Zuckerman, Ph.D., clinical psychologist (license no. 0810001150), child custody evaluator and known “paid whore” in the custody courts of the Commonwealth of Virginia. Dr. Zuckerman’s recommendations almost killed my 2-year-old because a judge (Arthur B. Vieregg) followed them. The judge retired in 2007. A FACEBOOK ACCOUNT IS NOT REQUIRED TO ACCESS THE JII COMMUNITY PAGE ON FACEBOOK.

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Name her team and win $100!

[Contest open 9.1.10] WIN $100! I want to offer the first individual who sends me an email containing the name of my daughter’s soccer team (fall 2010) a one hundred dollar bill. Collect your one hundred dollar bill simply by meeting me at her next game. Here she is pictured playing for the Loudoun Tigers All Stars last fall. This message was updated on September 1, 2010, by Veronique Wyvell

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"If you can give up a son, you can give back a daughter." -Miss Wyvell*

"If you can give up a son, you can give back a daughter." -Miss Wyvell*
*Click this photograph for the short story of Deel addiction to hate, jealousy, vengeance, rage, coercive control, manipulation and destruction of families (Next court date in CBOE case is August 19th in Leesburg)

Why won't they let my daughter go?

___________________________________ While in her mid-twenties, Lisa Ferry abandons her baby son in a catholic convent. While in his mid-thirties, Troy Deel abandons his baby son in an adoption scam. They terminate their parental rights to firstborns. Now both in their fifties, Troy and Lisa Deel are obsessed with forcing me out of the life of my child. Why won't they let my daughter go? ~Veronique Wyvell, mother of Brigitte, young victim of lawsuit abuse and foul play in the custody courts of Virginia (or ... The Deels think it’s ok to push custody papers that are not in order … They could be pushing their luck instead)

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Litigation as Psycho-Therapy, Litigation as Murder-Substitute

Litigation as Psycho-Therapy, Litigation as Murder-Substitute
‘WARDING OFF PSYCHIC COLLAPSE’ and ‘HOLDING OFF HATEFUL AND MURDEROUS WISHES’ with CUSTODY WARS: Ethicist and author Michael B. Donner PhD believes, in “tearing the child apart,” lawsuit abusing “parents remain both victim and victimizers in their own internal struggle.” (I believe Dr. Donner is one who “gets it,” and the bad custody judge is one who “looks the other way.” -Veronique Wyvell RN) Photograph clickable

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“The reality is that the ‘Good Dads’ settle these matters amicably.” -CP*

“The reality is that the ‘Good Dads’ settle these matters amicably.” -CP*
*Commentary by Charles Pragnell in “Sociopath Fathers : The ‘Charming’ Killers” ending with “It is to be hoped that society and Courts are able to more easily identify such sociopaths in the future and thereby provide the necessary protections for children and their mothers.” (Photograph clickable)

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A court ruling that contradicts the facts of the case . . .

A court ruling that contradicts the facts of the case . . .
...and recognizes eye-blinking as a relevant measurement of fitness to parent.

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Domestic Violence by Proxy: Why Terrorist Tactics Employed by Batterers Are Not "PAS" ... ~ The Leadership Council on Child Abuse & Interpersonal Violence 2009 ~

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“troy deel monster”*

“troy deel monster”*
*Search words googled by a visitor of this blog from IP address 75.75.106 on 22 June 2010

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Batterers such as Troy Deel are unlikely to share parenting*

Batterers such as Troy Deel are unlikely to share parenting*
*http://www.leadershipcouncil.org/docs/Truth_Commission_2007.pdf (Page 6/14)

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GOOD DADS DON’T ACT LIKE TROY DEEL

GOOD DADS DON’T ACT LIKE TROY DEEL
Brigitte and Mom on 14 July 2010 at the Rivercrest Swim Meet

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GOOD DADS DON’T ACT LIKE TROY DEEL Haunted by the truth this chronic trespasser on my motherhood says he will sue in email without subject, without substance Email #1 / Email #2 / Email #3 / Email #4 / Email #5 / Email #6 / Attachments, Aunt Dots

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Photo taken by mom, daughter taken by dad

Photo taken by mom, daughter taken by dad
“Brigitte has a mother who loves her very much,” and after six years of separation, I have a daughter who still loves me, much to the dismay of her disturbed father, Troy Deel. ~Veronique Wyvell on 11.11.2010

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An earlier life in pictures from a collection I call "My Pocketbook Album" . . .

An earlier life in pictures from a collection I call "My Pocketbook Album" . . .
…The album I regret was missing from my purse on July 14. It usually travels with me, in my purse, on days I go looking for Brigitte. So, Brigitte, if you are reading, click the picture above of us together for your 6th birthday to see “My Pocketbook Album” in pdf since I goofed up and forgot it when I left the house for Rivercrest that day I finally found you. I have many more photos I want to show you of your early life with your mother who has never, never stopped loving you. ~Posted by Veronique Wyvell on 18 Nov. 2010

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Pretend Phone, Pretend Mommy . . .

Pretend Phone, Pretend Mommy . . .
Troy Deel: “Rest assured, I will not be putting Brigitte in the middle of this in the future.” [Father of Brigitte, in a fax to her mother, Oct. 27, 2003]

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Troy Deel used this device to give his women pleasure . . .

Troy Deel used this device to give his women pleasure . . .
...The night I found him using it for the third time on my 15-month-old was our last together under his roof, yet my preference for iced chocolate milk would make me a pervert. The one food item my pregnant body did not reject by vomiting in eight months of hyperemesis gravidarum (complicated by potentially fatal preeclampsia) was labeled “a fetish” by Dr. William Zuckerman in his custody report. Zuckerman’s report would contain no discussion of the vibrator. See transcript of Deel testimony. -VW (Photograph clickable)

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Mother's savings -- not father's salary -- support baby Brigitte (We lived together) . . .

Mother's savings -- not father's salary -- support baby Brigitte (We lived together) . . .
…Dr. Zuckerman would also skip the subject of money in his $16,444.00 custody evaluation of the Deel-Wyvell (no marriage but we lived together) family. See transcript of Deel testimony. -VW (Image clickable)

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"If you're such a great father, why aren't you taking care of your son?" VW

"If you're such a great father, why aren't you taking care of your son?" VW
{Item #26} “Dr. Zuckerman overlooked the parent/child (often mother/child) separation issues and child abandonment issues which pervaded this case and were fundamental to an understanding of the conflict. The separation and abandonment themes are shockingly rampant in the recent history of this family: Troy Deel’s birthmother’s abandonment of him as a newborn when she left him on a stranger’s porch and their subsequent estrangement; Jackie Decker’s abandonment of her foster son and their subsequent estrangement, her foster son is Troy Deel; Troy Deel’s abandonment of his baby son (by Camen Shimer) and their subsequent estrangement; Carmen Shimer’s “kidnapping” of Troy Deel’s baby son and their subsequent estrangement from Troy Deel; Carmen Shimer’s father’s kidnapping of her from her mother and Carmen’s subsequent estrangement from her father (Carmen was reunited with her mother after 5 years of separation); finally, Lisa Ferry’s (Troy Deel’s current wife) abandonment of her newborn son in a convent after hiding there for the duration of her pregnancy and their subsequent estrangement. Dr. Zuckerman could not have been more negligent in his duty as a trained and experienced psychologist to identify and address unresolved conflict and to stop the monster that so much accumulated resentment has become as evidenced by the father’s obsessive drive to obliterate through litigation the mother (Veronique Wyvell) from their own daughter’s life. After all, the work of psychology is to explore human issues.” Item #26 above and Item #11 below were taken from the “Veronique Wyvell 34-Point/6-Page Official Statement of Heinous Behaviors and Atrocious Actions by Court Appointed Psychological Evaluator William Zuckerman in Troy Deel v. Veronique Wyvell, a Child Custody Evaluation” compiled on February 10, 2002 (and on file with VW). {Item #11} “At the time of the evaluation, Dr. Zuckerman’s daughters were refusing to speak with him because they sided with their mother whom he was divorcing. His troubled personal life should have ethically precluded him from evaluating custody disputes for others.”

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Troy Deel and court reporter scheme to sell Veronique rigged records . . .

Troy Deel and court reporter scheme to sell Veronique rigged records . . .
…Dastardly dad Troy Deel maintains a DOD/DSS Top Secret Level Personnel Security Clearance despite the premise that “[w]hen an individual’s life history shows evidence of unreliability or untrustworthiness, questions arise whether the individual can be relied on and trusted to exercise the responsibility necessary for working in a secure environment where protection of classified information is paramount,” however, clinical psychologist and forensic evaluator William Zuckerman would disregard all of my information and evidence in reference to Deel’s doctored court records by omitting every bit of that information and evidence from his custody report (http://www.dss.mil/disco/ps_faqs.html is source of quoted text). See transcript of Wyvell testimony and Wyvell letter to the head of the Court Reporters Association. -VW

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Troy Deel Sails Under False Colors

Troy Deel Sails Under False Colors
By order of the JDR court, I had full physical custody of Brigitte when Troy Deel registered her at Winwood; he had incomplete legal custody only. It is time for Troy “I’LL DO WHATEVER IT TAKES TO GET WHAT I WANT!” Deel to stop impersonating ME, Brigitte’s Right and Proper parent since the Fair and Square Judge Carr decision of May 1999, by pushing for all to see custody papers that are not in order, or maybe it is time for Troy “I’LL DO WHATEVER IT TAKES TO GET WHAT I WANT!” Deel to start moving to confirm the Incoherent, Unintelligible, Repugnant, and Completely Fraudulent Judge Vieregg decision of Nov. 2001. ~The devoted mother of a young victim of lawsuit abuse & foul play in the custody courts of Virginia~

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He never wanted me to have her. He wanted me to never know her. ~VW

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Batterers, Barratry, Bedlam and Boycotts

}THE JUDGE AS BATTERER (NO WONDER THAT, MORE THAN EVER BEFORE, WOMEN IN DOMESTIC VIOLENCE CASES EVERYWHERE ARE ON THE RUN, BOLTING WITH THEIR CHILDREN, IN A GLOBAL BACKLASH AGAINST BARRATRY AND A WORLDWIDE BOYCOTT OF THE BENCH): A SAMPLING OF 25 YEARS OF SUPPORTING LITERATURE [Click book cover for an ever growing list of authorities on The Bedlam]

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Available April 2010

“Women trapped in relationships with abusers come to expect horrendous misbehavior from their partners. What they cannot fathom is the maddening reinforcement commonly provided to abusive men by the justice system and the public at large. . . . That key abuse collaborator is the custody judge. Of all of the actors in a battered woman’s life, none wield more power over her children and financial future. It is beyond infuriating when women discover that their custody judges lack understanding of DV and are colluding with abusers to take away women’s financial resources and, even worse, their children.” --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- An excerpt from Why Do Judges Do That? by Judge Mike Brigner --------- in DOMESTIC VIOLENCE, ABUSE, AND CHILD CUSTODY Legal Strategies and Policy Issues by Editors Mo Therese Hannah PhD and Barry Goldstein JD* -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Order Now

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*Family courts, endangering children and punishing women

*Family courts, endangering children and punishing women
Order online Dr. Hannah's new collection by going to CivicResearchInstitute.com (Click image)

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“There is a crisis in the custody court system, which has resulted in thousands of children being sent to live with abusers while safe, protective parents, primarily mothers, are denied any meaningful relationship with their children. The court system has failed to respond appropriately to domestic violence and child abuse cases involving custody. The Commission found many common errors made by the courts and the professionals they rely upon which contribute to these tragedies.”

“The common theme that emerged from the testimony is that there is a widespread problem of abusive parents being granted custody of children and protective parents having their custody limited or denied, and/or being otherwise punished.”

“The situation of family courts endangering children and punishing women must be exposed in the media. State and national policymakers in all three branches of government and other allies must be advised of the problem of family courts placing children in the unsupervised custody of abusive parents, and be told that this is happening with alarming frequency.”

-Dr. Mo Therese Hannah, BMCC Chair and Truth Commission Coordinator, in report findings/solutions four years ago, in 2007

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Remember them in November

Click poster for Marsden Mute (nor did I ever hear back from Senators Howell and Cuccinelli and Delegate Valentine). -Veronique, Mother of Brigitte VIRGINIANS for the REPEAL of the 'BEST INTEREST OF THE CHILD' STANDARD

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Monday, August 6, 2012

Attn Ashburn Pediatrics (Dr. Amie Beloy, Dr. Maura Carroll, Dr. Jane Curry, Dr. Theresa Crowley, Dr. Victoria Pierce, Dr. Michele Reilly, Dr. Jyotsna Shah, Katie Geaneas, Susan Weiner, Kelly Wellstead), 20955 Professional Plaza, Suite 200, Ashburn, Virginia 20147: TROY DEEL HAS PROBLEMS NOT CUSTODY...MOTHER IS BRIGITTE'S LAWFUL PARENT...STOP YOUR WRONGFUL 'DOCTORING' (TEACHING, COACHING, PREACHING) OF MY DAUGHTER AT ONCE!



Attn Edgar B. Hatrick, Superintendent, Loudoun County Public Schools, 21000 Education Court, Ashburn, Virginia 20148: TROY DEEL HAS PROBLEMS NOT CUSTODY...MOTHER IS BRIGITTE'S LAWFUL PARENT...STOP YOUR WRONGFUL TEACHING (COACHING, PREACHING, 'DOCTORING') OF MY DAUGHTER AT ONCE!



Attn Dave Edwards, Director, STAR Performance, 22062 Avonworth Square, Broadlands, Virginia 20148: TROY DEEL HAS PROBLEMS NOT CUSTODY...MOTHER IS BRIGITTE'S LAWFUL PARENT...STOP YOUR WRONGFUL COACHING (TEACHING, PREACHING, 'DOCTORING') OF MY DAUGHTER AT ONCE!



Attn Todd D. Sheller, President, The Belmont Sharks Board of Directors, 20071 Medalist Drive, Ashburn, Virginia 20147: TROY DEEL HAS PROBLEMS NOT CUSTODY...MOTHER IS BRIGITTE'S LAWFUL PARENT...STOP YOUR WRONGFUL COACHING (TEACHING, PREACHING, 'DOCTORING') OF MY DAUGHTER AT ONCE!



Attn Charlie & Jill Whitlow, Lead Pastors, Community Church, 19790 Ashburn Road, Ashburn, Virginia 20147: TROY DEEL HAS PROBLEMS NOT CUSTODY...MOTHER IS BRIGITTE'S LAWFUL PARENT...STOP YOUR WRONGFUL PREACHING (TEACHING, COACHING, 'DOCTORING') OF MY DAUGHTER AT ONCE!



Thursday, April 26, 2012

DR. BRIAN WALD IS A PARAPHILIAC Sexually perverse child custody evaluator and parenting coordinator in Virginia Beach was stripped of his license to practice psychology this April

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Brian Wald, PhD
Forensic Child Expert
Pervert and Crook
 
Here's the document on Wald many of you are searching for.

Some readers -- especially those of you who are "protective mothers" in disputed cases opposite an abuser -- might be interested in the other post on my blog exposing child custody evaluator and family expert Brian Wald back in 2009: http://mommygobyebye-virginia.blogspot.com/2009/08/beware-of-brian-wald-paid-hired.html for "Beware of Brian Wald..."

Mommy Go Bye Bye has tracked Zoll too. Dr. David Zoll is also of Tidewater, and like Wald, he lost his own license to practice psychology not long ago.

And like Wald, Zoll did family evaluations for the Virginia courts.

Click pic to read how Wald was bought by an abuser.

~VW

Sunday, March 11, 2012

ANN WOOD MISCHE AVOID AT ALL COST! She tricks moms who hire her by feeding them to promoter of custody OF LITTLE GIRLS for abusive dads, Dr. Zuckerman

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Mothers must discontinue their use of Ann Wood Mische immediately. This defective, dangerous, and deceitful divorce lawyer operates out of Fairfax and now Charlottesville, in Virginia.

The Mische 'MO' is to betray the mother she represents by putting Dr. William "Bill" Zuckerman on the legal case. He is the equally defective, dangerous, and deceitful child custody evaluator mentioned throughout the Mommy Go Bye Bye blog.

Zuckerman also should be avoided at all cost.

Mische -- a notorious "frequent-filer" on the Fairfax County Circuit Court Friday Motions Docket -- and Zuckerman have established a pattern of collaborating on the removal of little girls from the care of loving and involved mothers with transfer of custody to abusive, violent, narcissistic or otherwise sick fathers. [FN1]

The mission of “M & Z, Inc.” is to turn you, mom who is fit, into its next cash cow.

Find just one example of Mische and Zuckerman chicanery at the Mommy Go Bye Bye blog post here: http://mommygobyebye-virginia.blogspot.com/2007/04/in-virginia-child-custody-evaluators.html. [FN2]

Mothers should not be quick to ignore and dismiss the information shared on my blog in reference to William Zuckerman, Ph.D., known paid whore by the good judges on the Fairfax County bench. To throw Mische into the mix spells disaster for little girls and their mothers.

~VW

[ FN1 ] WHAT ONE 'PRETEND MOMMY' IS DOING ABOUT MAKE-BELIEVE MOTIONS AND THE PETTIFOGGING SHYSTERS WHO DREAM THEM UP: Barratry of no benefit to our children

[ FN2 ] VIRGINIA CHILD CUSTODY EVALUATOR PLAYS JUDGE ...introducing william bill zuckerman phd and the machinations of a justice system that protects him

Thursday, February 2, 2012

WHEN JUDGES PISS ON MOTHERS The option should be a legislative inquiry en lieu of appeals court, the goal a new standard called the Approximation Rule


It’s all in the Truth Commission Report.

The reporters, in their Findings and Solutions, are calling for legislative committees, or inquiries, to screen cases for mistakes and make corrections, outside the appeals process. They are recommending the Approximation Rule because BIOC, the current standard for determining custody, doesn’t work either.

Mothers everywhere, not just in Virginia, need to tell their legislators they want special legislative committees, or legislative inquiries, established that will address the issue of obscene decisions by judges in child custody litigation when family abuse is a factor. They need to demand a review of their cases outside of the appeals process because the appeals process doesn’t work any better than the “best interest of the child” standard. They need to demand a new way of doing custody. The new way, mothers should tell their legislators, is something called the Approximation Rule.

The landmark 2010 publication by Hannah and Goldstein incorporates the Truth Commission Report (or you can still retrieve the entire report on the Leadership Council website, http://www.leadershipcouncil.org/docs/Truth_Commission_2007.pdf).

Go to Chapter 8 in Domestic Violence, Abuse, and Child Custody: Legal Strategies and Policy Issues (best two websites, http://www.civicresearchinstitute.com/dvac.html and http://www.domesticviolenceabuseandchildcustody.com/) to know more about the Truth Commission Report. Use its Findings and Solutions to help you when writing your legislators. Consider pushing for a legislative committee, or legislative inquiry, and an approximation standard in your state.

The issue has been organized for us in these wonderful projects by Hannah and Goldstein. The many activist moms out there don’t seem to realize this is the case. We should stay focused on the contents in those projects. Aggrieved mothers won’t accomplish a thing until they start singing from the same hymnsheet.

So let’s learn the song to better work together on getting the pissing to stop.

~Veronique W.

PS - I visited my local public library with my copy of Domestic Violence, Abuse, and Child Custody: Legal Strategies and Policy Issues just last week. Mr. Barry Goldstein says we need to suggest the book to our librarians in our neighborhoods. I finally did just that. Let's all make that same suggestion. It won't matter if you don't own a copy of DVAC. Simply refer your librarian to the Civic Research Institute site for book details.

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Wednesday, January 18, 2012

On Preserving the Dignity and Resources of Family Members in Child Custody and Visitation Deliberations in the Courts of the Commonwealth of Virginia

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“The procedures for determining custody and visitation arrangements shall...preserve the dignity and resources of family members” -Paragraph A in § 20-124.2 of the Code of Virginia


Re Paragraph A in § 20-124.2 of the Code of Virginia

Troy Deel gave Lisa Ferry sex while I lived with him and -- with my $65,000 in savings -- kept house and cared for our baby, under his roof.

Troy Deel gave me and our baby no money but a lot of violence.

I paid Troy Deel's legal bills, twice. Judge Arthur Vieregg told me to give $2,400 to Deel's attorney, Sandra Havrilak. Judge Jonathan Thacher, however, told me nothing. Without notice, Judge Jonathan Thacher swiped $7,862 in bail bond money to give to Deel's attorney, Sandra Havrilak. The $7,862 were never returned to my brother Chris (even though I appeared in court) because the Supreme Court of Virginia said Sandy should keep the money Jonny stole from my relative to give to her.

I couldn’t afford to post my own bond because what remained of the $65,000 in savings, after borrowing from it to care for Troy Deel, his house, and our baby while Troy Deel was having sex with Lisa Ferry, got used up to pay lawyers to protect me from all the barratrous judicial proceedings Troy Deel hired Sandra Havrilak to inflict upon me.

A deputy sheriff arrested me in my home because I stopped showing up in their courts after feeling sick and tired of all the judges doing nothing to stop Deel’s crazy lawyer, this Sandra Havrilak, considering it’s the law, in Virginia, that custody and visitation deliberations should “preserve the dignity and resources of family members” (Paragraph A in § 20-124.2). Hence, the bond posting and seizure.

Troy Deel never paid my legal fees.

Miss Lisa is raising my daughter.

And my brother can’t stand me.

Isn’t that nice?






~Veronique Wyvell, devoted mother of Brigitte, young victim of lawsuit abuse and foul play in the custody courts of Virginia

(See you in December!)

Some history, for interested readers and fellow victims of illegal bond forfeiture in the courts of the Commonwealth of Virginia:

http://mommygobyebye-virginia.blogspot.com/2007/12/mark-e-rubin-senior-advisor-to-governor.html

http://mommygobyebye-virginia.blogspot.com/2008/06/same-judges-do-it-uneven-amount-debt.html

http://mommygobyebye-virginia.blogspot.com/2009/01/how-i-became-opportunity-tort-against.html

Friday, October 22, 2010

IN THE MATTER OF BONDS

Second Printing of STOCKBROKER/KIDNAPPER LISA DEEL ACCUSED OF MANIPULATION, OBSTRUCTION, NEGLIGENCE, WILLFUL & REPEATED BREACH & ‘A FAILURE TO EXECUTE’ IN 2008 CBOE CASE {This post was first published on 29 September 2009. The Loudoun County circuit court case against Investment Advisor Lisa Ferry Deel has since settled out of court. The Bond-Breaking Ms. Lisa Ferry Deel no longer handles other people's money. She teaches golf full-time and remains the primary handler of my daughter Brigitte.}
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The French reserve for such people... a special noun...


...Garce












SOURCE>> Claimant v. Lisa Ferry Deel, Katherine M. Owens, A.G. Edwards; Chicago Board Options Exchange; #07NM001; 6/27/08; https://www.cboe.org/Legal/arbitAwards.aspx*

SUMMARY>> Stockbroker and Financial Advisor Lisa Ferry Deel of Ashburn and Belmont Country and Golf Club, in Virginia's Loudoun County, is accused of manipulation, obstruction, negligence, willful and repeated breach, and “a failure to execute” in a 2008 case before CBOE, or the Chicago Board Options Exchange. Deel is the same woman who 10 years ago began taking away, with intent to abduct, the daughter of the creator of the Mommy Go Bye Bye blog by force and by use of manipulation, obstruction, negligence, willful and repeated breach, and “a failure to execute.”

SCOOP>> Lisa Ferry Deel had, among other things, closed the Claimant’s account by making unreasonable demands, and threats, which allowed him to recover less than a third only from his total initial investment records show.

Records also show Ms. Ferry Deel, current wife of Troy Deel, has kidnapped my daughter Brigitte by making use of, yes, manipulation, obstruction, negligence, willful and repeated breach, and “a failure to execute,” which is allowing me to recover absolutely nothing from the very exceptional, enviable even, bond of love I once shared with my only child.

While I was building that bond with my newborn, and living with my baby's father, Troy Deel, because I thought it would be nice for Troy to bond with his new daughter too, Miss Lisa Ferry was screwing him.

Speaking of bonds, Mrs. Deel with her husband, who benefits from a top secret government clearance (which didn't stop him from rigging our transcript--the changes to my court record are so glaring that they couldn't have been accidental nor free), blocked Brigitte's uncle, my brother Chris, from recovering his (bail) bond of seven thousand eight hundred sixty two dollars ($7862) then seized, and pocketed, the entire sum for their own personal use only after they watched him invest, and lose, another eight thousand dollars ($8000) in legal proceedings to recover his bond.

Chris Wyvell still waits to see his niece, again, and his bail money.

My brother last saw Brigitte on October 13, 2004. Our father had been cremated that morning. It was Brigitte’s 7th birthday. She was allowed thirty (30) minutes with her uncle because he had agreed to the terms and conditions of the visit demanded and dictated by her stepmother, Lisa Ferry Deel, and her father, Troy Deel: Chris should not speak my name, never mention me, nor refer to me in any way in the presence of Brigitte if he insisted on seeing his niece that day. They met at a McDonald’s in Ashburn. Chris Wyvell kept his promise.

Our father was dying, and the Deels were quietly scheming to take away from us control of the Trust he established for Brigitte. Mr. and Mrs. Deel had intervened to conceal from us the fact that our father was gravely ill and to cut us out of our father’s will. The estate of
Donald Wyvell had been valued at seven hundred thousand dollars ($700,000). Chris and I never saw our inheritance money. And the Trust remains in the improper possession of the Deels.

We, my brother and I, still wait to recover the Trust our father had designated for his only grandchild. There was no marriage, and Troy Deel had never adopted Brigitte.

Speaking of adoptions, money-grubbing schemers and children-haters Lisa Ferry and then-boyfriend Troy Deel entered into an agreement with ex-girlfriend Carmen Shimer that terminated his parental rights to the son Deel and Shimer had together. Ferry and Deel had arranged for the adoption of baby Jeffrey by Shimer's new husband as a means of extinguishing child support obligations, financial and emotional.

While Miss Carmen Shimer was pregnant with Troy Deel’s baby, Miss Lisa Ferry was screwing him. Lisa Ferry and Troy Deel first met and began to date just four years after she had secretly given birth to a son in a catholic convent where she hid from her father for the duration of her own pregnancy. She was in her mid-twenties. In the convent, she terminated her parental rights by giving up the newborn for adoption as a means of extinguishing child support obligations, financial and emotional.

Baby-rejecting child-abductors Deel and girlfriend Ferry (ever-present at transfers, in litigation, and for Zuckerman) took me to court to have me incarcerated, to have me supervised, to have my Mother’s Day weekend eliminated, my summer vacations blocked, my visitation terminated (ask them about 9/11) and my brother robbed. Our newly-wedded Deels even took me to court to have my visits with my toddler confined and restricted to Fair Oaks Mall across the street from their marital home. By her fourth birthday, my little girl, the baby Deel urged me to abort, had endured four different dangerous and debilitating visitation schedules in less than three years. Custody changed three times. Con artists Lisa Ferry Deel and husband, in their litigious and paranoidal rampage, finally took Brigitte. I may one day recover my daughter, but I expect never to recover my one hundred thousand dollars ($100,000) which were wasted in those courtroom games that were instigated by these two cons, these two thieves.

Home invaders Ferry & Deel had also burglarized my condo and had taken from it the social security card, the birth certificate, and the passport belonging to my fourteen-month-old, a paternity paper signed by her father, and every picture I owned of me pregnant with Brigitte.

Jeffrey was eleven when his mother died prematurely. I often wonder who cared for him after his loss. I know Deel didn’t. I don’t have information on Ferry's son. Worse off? I doubt it. (The death of Jeffrey's mother is based on unconfirmed information.)

In France, we reserve for special people such as Lisa Ferry Deel a very special noun:

Garce.

-
Veronique Wyvell

“…you may have been shown, or given for your files, custody papers that are not in order.”
-Brigitte’s mother to Belmont Ridge Middle School


*SEQUEL>>
Plaintiff v. Lisa Ferry Deel, Katherine M. Owens, and A.G. Edwards; Loudoun County Circuit Court in Virginia; #CL00051880-00; 9/25/08; Status Active

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“Integrity is not a commodity. It’s the most rare and precious of personal attributes. It is the core of a person’s — and a company’s — reputation.”
-John Stumpf, Chairman & CEO, Wells Fargo, past employer of LFD




Saturday, July 24, 2010

GOOD DADS DON’T ACT LIKE TROY DEEL Haunted by the truth this chronic trespasser on my motherhood says he will sue in email without subject, substance,

...and spellcheck.
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People don’t want to believe it. -DL
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Subject:
From:
tadeel@comcast.com
Date: Thursday, July 22, 2010

Veronique,

Please do not show up on Saturday. This is not the way to get back into Brigitte's life. If you embarish her on Saturday, this will further deminish any chance of ever being a part of her life. Brigitte has grown into a wonderful person whose feelings you seem to not care about. You have been gone from her life for over six years. If you really want a chance with her you must start communicating with me and only me without hostility or anger. I will not allow you into her life unless you seek and continue for a sustained period of time certified physicological counseling and medication.

Furthermore, you are not allowed into Belmont. If I find you inside the gates I will have you arrested for tresspassing. These words should sound familiar as these are the last words you said to me the last time you saw Brigitte at your home July 4th weekend of 2004. You said to me "You and Brigitte are never allowed on my property ever again and if you do it will be tresspassing". You should remember this, I have. Up until that time I made every attempt to insure that Brigitte got to see you during your scheduled visitation. You were a no show on many occasions and several times I brought Brigitte to your home. I do not know what took place that holiday weekend during your visitation with Brigitte, but you must understand that Brigitte has never asked to come back to your home since that weekend. If she had, I would have brought her. Unless you take serious what I have said above your chances to have a normal relationship with Brigitte will not happen.

You have defamed and libeled my wife and I in public for several years now. Please stop. Do not send emails to Lisa's employer, my employer, my employers associates or anyone else connected to me or my wife. Any further defamation will cause me to take action. Please remove Lisa's name and my name from your blog. Your linkage to Shivani's Face Book must also be removed. Your public posting of Brigitte's picture without asking her did not sit well with her or her friends.

There's a good chance this email will only enrage you. It is my hope that it does not. It is my hope that you take what I have said above very seriously and seek help.

Sincerely,

Troy

14 July 2010 at Rivercrest Pool

“Brigitte has a mother who loves her very much.”
And after six years of separation, I have
a daughter who still loves me.

TROY DEEL CAN GO JUMP IN A LAKE.

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comments and commentaries...


This comment by Anonymous can be found at, http://misconductinvirginiafamilycourts.blogspot.com/2010/07/brigitte-deel-of-ashburn-va-is-taken.html or, Brigitte Deel of Ashburn, VA is taken captive by her Sociopath Father Troy Deel:

It is just like the emails from my abusive X who through lies and accusations of me abusing our son with the help of his unethical attorney got custody. Not making much money, I have been unable to fight. After taking custody, he and his wife abused and neglected my son. He was expelled from school, not fed, not clothed and did not receive medical care for his TS. Then they pressed not once but three times assault charges on this young man and refused to give me custody of which I have been fighting in the courts for. Now do to the confusion and hysteria and abuse in the courtroom, my son is with DFS just rotting away. I had medical appts scheduled, clarinet lessons, etc and live in the best school district and residence possible in Maryland. Sadly his dad is in Fairfax. I have never experienced such horrible [male chauvinism] ever. It is horrible. The GAL and others just poster and say anything they want to say about me and get away with it The judge never asks for authentication of their comments etc and argue and yell at me in front of my son! I am a respected member of the community and a teacher and my X abused me and now my son and the judge and others will not see it. It is truly a man's world in Virginia and almost like a police state too! It is incredible. My son has been destroyed. He was ready for a top college and now he has not had the chance to even attend HS the past few years. I am sick from this He and I love each other so much. The dad and attorney did PAS on him and made him believe the lies and tried to alienate him from me but our love was too strong. Even though they continue to say they do not want him they refuse to drop the custody fight even though it is destroying his only son.
I have so many crazy emails from him bordering on psychopathology also sounding so very similar. Wonder if he found this website and copied it!

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This commentary is by The Leadership Council,
http://www.leadershipcouncil.org/1/pas/DVP.html or,
Domestic Violence (DV) by Proxy: Why Terrorist Tactics Employed by Batterers Are Not "PAS":

As more and more abused women lose custody to batterers in family courts, they are wrongly embracing the very ideas that enabled their abusers to gain custody in the first place. False accusations of “parental alienation" are often used by batterers to gain custody and to defend against accusations of abuse.

Some unfortunate women after years of enduring domestic violence have lost custody to the batterers who abused them. In these cases, batterers have made good on their threat to attack their ex-partner in the place she is the most vulnerable—by taking her children away from her. After separation, these batterers continue to wage their campaign of manipulation and abuse by attempting to convince involved children that their mothers never loved them. Looking for a way to describe their batterers' behavior, some mothers have called what their batterer is doing "parental alienation syndrome."

In reality, what these women are describing from their ex-partners is better termed Domestic Violence by Proxy (DV by Proxy), a term first used by Alina Patterson, author of Health and Healing. DV by Proxy refers to a pattern of behavior [in] a parent with a history of using domestic violence or intimidation, [who] uses a child as a substitute when he no longer has access to his former partner. Calling this behavior “parental alienation” is not strong enough to convey the criminal pattern of terroristic behaviors employed by batterers.

When his victim leaves him, batterers often recognize that the most expedient way to continue to hurt his partner is to assert his legal rights to control her access to their children. By gaining control of the children, an abusive male now has a powerful tool which allows him to continue to stalk, harass and batter an ex-partner even when he has no direct access to her. Moreover, by emotionally torturing the child and severing the bond between children and their mother, he is able to hurt his intended victim -- the mother -- in a way she cannot resist.

DV by Proxy includes tactics such as: threats of harm to children if they display a positive bond to the mother, destroying favored possessions given by the mother, and emotional torture (for example, telling the child the mother hates them, wanted an abortion, and is not coming to get them because they are unloved).

DV by Proxy may also include coaching the child to make false allegations regarding their mother's behavior and harming or punishing the child for not complying. DV by Proxy perpetrators may also create fraudulent documents to defraud the court in order to prevent the mother from gaining custody. Whether or not the child is biologically related to them is irrelevant to perpetrators of DV by Proxy. The perpetrator's main motivation is to hurt his ex; whether or not his own child is harmed in the process is irrelevant to him.

This is very different from "parental alienation syndrome" as described by the late Richard A. Gardner. Dr. Gardner described PAS as an internal process by which a child aligns themselves with a preferred parent to protect themselves from the divorce conflict. “PAS” is conceptualized as a psychological process of identification with a parent who, according to the theory, encourages this identification at the expense of the other parent.

PAS inducing parents, according to Gardner, are often unconscious of what they are doing to encourage the identification. In contrast, perpetrators of DV by Proxy are very conscious of what they are doing. Controlling, coercive, illegal acts often done by abusive and controlling people, usually men, are not subtle, and do not encourage an identification with a parent. Criminal, fraudulent, coercive acts are visible and obvious. These behaviors encourage compliance by threats and fear. Behaviors involved in DV by Proxy are deliberate and often illegal. These behaviors include: battery, destruction of property, locking children in rooms to prevent them from calling parents, falsifying documents, along with other similar overt behaviors.

The most dangerous aspect of Gardner's PAS theory is that that the alienating parent's behavior is theorized to be so subtle as to be unobservable. In other words, the behaviors that are supposed to cause the alienation are assumed to be happening without any proof that they have actually occured. As many women have discovered this makes a charge of "alienation" almost impossible to defend against.

While Gardner's theories regarding PAS have been shown to be overly general and have not been supported by careful research, behaviors seen in DV by Proxy can be readily observed. Behaviors involved in DV by Proxy are deliberate and planned; many are illegal, and if the child is given the freedom to talk, will be described in great detail by the child.

If the child's formerly favorable view of the victimized parent changes when exposed to tactics like this over time then it is more likely a form of "Stockholm Syndrome" or traumatic attachment to the abuser, rather than the alignment with one parent and negative reaction to the other that Gardner described as "alienation".

A recent and comprehensive article on PAS and its use in the court system, by Jennifer Hoult can be downloaded here.

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Saturday, July 3, 2010

MARSDEN MUM on Issue of Remaking Virginia Law Affecting Family Dissolution, Children to Curb Litigation, Protect Rights of Caring and Involved Parents

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Hello Mr. Albo.... I am writing you because I have had no reply from Mr. Marsden. Legislators must get a lot of emails. Never easy to read and then answer every bit of it. I know because I get a lot of emails too. Most of the people who write me are parents, most are mothers, a few fathers. The message, however, is always the same. I hear over and over again that *BIOC* isn't working. But I think Virginia legislators know this. I think if Virginia legislators were more diligent about reading and responding to mail from their constituents who are innocent, and honest, parents in difficult legal situations because *BIOC* isn't working, my own mailbox would see less of it. People find me because I blog on the issue...I am hoping you might be open to considering, and pushing for, a new approach. This new approach is discussed below in my email for Delegate David Marsden. It's called THE APPROXIMATION RULE.
-Veronique Wyvell wrote Dave Albo on Dec. 7, 2008


----- Original Message -----
From: Veronique WYVELL
To: DelDMarsden@house.state.va.us
Sent: Tuesday, November 11, 2008 11:57
Subject: THE APPROXIMATION RULE (1 of 2)

Re: THE APPROXIMATION RULE

Section 2.08. Allocation of Custodial Responsibility

(1) Unless otherwise resolved by agreement of the parents under Sec. 2.06, the court should allocate custodial responsibility so that the proportion of custodial time the child spends with each parent approximates the proportion of time each parent spent performing caretaking functions for the child prior to the parents’ separation or, if the parents never lived together, before the filing of the action, except to the extent required under Sec. 2.11 or necessary to achieve one or more of the following objectives:

(a) to permit the child to have a relationship with each parent which, in the case of a legal parent or a parent by estoppel who has performed a reasonable share of parenting functions, should not be less than a presumptive amount of custodial time set by a uniform rule of statewide application…

{Source: The American Law Institute, PRINCIPLES OF THE LAW OF FAMILY DISSOLUTION: ANALYSIS AND RECOMMENDATIONS, Soft Cover Edition 2003, Chapter 2, Page 178} [FN1]

Attn: Dave W. Marsden
Virginia House of Delegates 2008
41st District - Fairfax County (part)
9322 Jackson StreetBurke, VA 22015
Phone: 703.323.4733
Email: DelDMarsden@house.state.va.us

Dear Delegate Marsden,

Good morning.

We met last December outside House Room C in the General Assembly Building the day of Judicial Interviews. You asked me, “What do you want?” Before I could answer, however, you told me to put it on ONE piece of paper. I said to you that it was too late now to propose legislation (for the 2008 session). And you shrugged your shoulders. I had traveled to Richmond that day to join a small group of parents who share a concern about how child custody gets done in Virginia, and why it gets done that way. Some of us were standing in front of you that day in December, outside Room C. You might remember. I hope you remember.

At the very top of this email message for you, please see the legislation that I hope you still can and will consider, and deliver, to the 2009 session on behalf of the many, many parents in Virginia who know that *BIOC* isn’t working. Many, many reputable people in reputable places have been writing and speaking on “The Best Interest of the Child Standard”--specifically, on the need to replace it with “a better way” because it isn’t working.

The legislation I would like proposed is taken from page 178 of PRINCIPLES [FN1]. I read that The American Law Institute devoted 10 years to compiling the information contained in this study and this presentation of model codes and “restatements” [FN2].

Relevant Virginia officials, however, appear to be paying absolutely no attention to this wonderful work, and effort, by ALI. I had no answer from Delegate Teri Suit when last year I invited her to join me for “State of the Family 2007.” The University of Richmond / School of Law / National Center for Family Law was hosting in September, 2007, its first ever national family law symposium. Elizabeth Scott and Robert Emery presented. Both scholars spoke at sessions devoted to making the case for an “approximation” standard, devoted to making the case for doing away with the “best interest of the child” standard [FN3].

Although Professor Scott is no longer at the University of Virginia, Dr. Robert Emery is still there as professor of psychology and director of The Center for Children, Families, and the Law. You can find his personal, professional, and contact information on his UVA web pages [FN4].

I think the Virginia General Assembly would benefit from listening to Dr. Emery speak on the value of The Approximation Rule, especially if repealing *BIOC* is too scary for them [FN5]. My own calculations show that it is possible that at least 7000 Virginia children each year join the thousands upon thousands of children already caught in never-ending “abuse & custody” cases (high-conflict separations and divorces almost always contain histories of family abuse). NOT repealing *BIOC* is too scary for me. The number of Virginia children in foster care is fixed at about 7000, I believe. Good attention, after all, is given to the foster care “crisis” afflicting so many, and so why should we not think about giving some “good attention” to the custody “crisis” afflicting so many more?

The presumptive amount of custody time mentioned in 1(a) in the above proposed legislation can be easily satisfied with Utah’s Minimum Schedules for Parent-Time [FN 6]. My own research has confirmed that the Utah Minimum Schedules follow the recommendations of our most respected experts on age-appropriate and developmentally-appropriate residence and parent-time arrangements for children with parents who live apart. Mr. David Levy of CRC told me way back that the Utah schedules were actually designed by a female administrator with CRC. The schedules are not new in Utah.

Section 2.06, which is also mentioned in the above proposed legislation, is referring to parental agreements. PRINCIPLES, the complete volume, can be viewed on Westlaw and in most law libraries. I have found it convenient to own my own softbound copy, however. You may look at it, if you wish.

I think it might take up to 3 years to pass The Approximation Rule in Virginia, that is, if we begin to introduce the concept during the GA session coming up, in 2009.

There has simply been far too little organized activity and far too little organized focus on the very real Racket that *BIOC* has now become. The hidden victims? Children [FN7].

Thousands upon thousands of Virginia’s children.

Can you and will you still help?

Thank you.

Veronique Wyvell
VWyvell@patriot.net
Private citizen
McLean, Virginia

[FN1] “ALI Publications Catalog: Principles of the Law of Family Dissolution: Analysis and Recommendations” found at,
http://www.ali.org/index.cfm?fuseaction=publications.fpage&product_code=1FAMDISOTS

[FN2] “Press Release: AMERICAN LAW INSTITUTE PUBLISHES PRINCIPLES OF THE LAW OF FAMILY DISSOLUTION” sent by VW as separate email message

[FN3] “State of the Family 2007 brochure” found at, http://law.richmond.edu/news/NCFLBrochure.pdf

[FN4] “Robert E. Emery biographical information” found at,
www.virginia.edu/ccfl/emery.php

[FN5] “Custody Disputed: The guidelines judges and psychologists use to decide child custody cases have little basis in science. The system must be rebuilt on better research by Robert E. Emery, Randy K. Otto, and William O'Donohue” found at,
http://www.sciam.com/article.cfm?id=custody-disputed

[FN6] “Utah Code Section 30-3-35.5. Minimum schedule for parent-time for children under five years of age” found at,
http://le.utah.gov/~code/TITLE30/htm/30_03_003505.htm
and,
“Utah Code Section 30-3-35. Minimum schedule for parent-time for children 5 to 18 years of age” found at,
http://le.utah.gov/~code/TITLE30/htm/30_03_003500.htm

[FN7] “A Critical Assessment of Child Custody Evaluations: Limited Science and a Flawed System by Robert E. Emery, Randy K. Otto, and William T. O'Donohue (Editorial by Eleanor E. Maccoby)” found at,
http://www.psychologicalscience.org/journals/index.cfm?journal=pspi&content=pspi/6_1


----- Original Message -----
From: Veronique WYVELL
To: DelDMarsden@house.state.va.us
Sent: Tuesday, November 11, 2008 11:57
Subject: THE APPROXIMATION RULE (2 of 2)

[FN2] “Press Release: AMERICAN LAW INSTITUTE PUBLISHES PRINCIPLES OF THE LAW OF FAMILY DISSOLUTION” sent by VW as separate email message

PRESS RELEASE

IMMEDIATE

Michael Greenwald
800-CLE NEWS, ext.1626

AMERICAN LAW INSTITUTE PUBLISHES PRINCIPLES OF THE LAW OF FAMILY DISSOLUTION

(Philadelphia) – The American Law Institute (ALI) has published its first comprehensive work in the field of family law: Principles of the Law of Family Dissolution: Analysis and Recommendations. With this innovative and groundbreaking new volume, the Institute completes more than a decade of work on the legal consequences of family dissolution, including those involving domestic partners. These Principles cover such vital issues as the allocation of custodial and decisionmaking responsibilities for children, child support, distribution of marital property, compensatory payments to former spouses, and the legal effect of agreements between the parties.
.....
Responsive to the enormous changes in society that have taken place over a half century during which divorce rates climbed and the traditional roles of men and women were challenged, this innovative volume moves beyond the traditional formulations that were often framed in such general terms as to give nearly unbounded discretion to the decisionmakers charged with implementing them. The Principles provide family law with the conceptual clarification and improved adaptation to social needs that has long been the ALI’s hallmark. It makes a major contribution to the better administration of justice in an area too often marked by inequity.

The work is described as "Principles" rather than "Restatement" because "Principles" is the better designation for a project that carefully explores and clarifies the fundamental assumptions—about the best interests of children, fairness to divorcing wives and husbands, and the legitimate economic claims of unmarried partners—upon which the legal rules must rest. Many of these Principles, nevertheless, restate and clarify present law, while others recommend directions for implementation by courts, legislatures, and other appropriate decisionmakers. The result is a coherent legal framework, sensitive to both the traditional value systems within which most families are formed and the nontraditional realities and expectations of other families, a framework the earlier drafts of which have already begun to influence both courts and legislatures...

continued...


----- Original Message -----
From: Veronique WYVELL
To: DelDMarsden@house.state.va.us
Sent: Tuesday, November 18, 2008 10:51
Subject: The Approximation Rule...

Hello Mr. Marsden,

On 11 November 2008, I sent you:
THE APPROXIMATION RULE (1 of 2),
and,
THE APPROXIMATION RULE (2 of 2).

If you did not receive those two email messages,
I can re-send them.

If you received my messages,
I would like to know that you received them.

If you received them,
and if you are not interested in supporting such legislation,
please let me know you are not interested.

If you do not answer this message,
I will re-send the original two.

I understand that you might be very busy,
the 2009 session will be here soon.

Thank you.

Veronique Wyvell, RN
Private citizen
Fairfax County, Virginia

Cartoon at top} by David Klein,
Wall Street Journal, Jan. 26, 2009, Text added

. . .
ADDENDA

West Virginia passes the Approximation Rule:
§ 48-9-206. Allocation of custodial responsibility.

Iowa Supreme Court in Hansen v. Hansen (2007) acknowledges, validates the Approximation Rule:
http://www.judicial.state.ia.us/Supreme_Court/Recent_Opinions/20070615/06-0191.pdf

[This post was first published on 31 December 2008]

Thursday, December 31, 2009

THE JUDGE AS BATTERER (NO WONDER MORE WOMEN IN DOMESTIC VIOLENCE CASES ARE ON THE RUN): A SAMPLING OF 25 YEARS OF SUPPORTING LITERATURE

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70% of abductions are by mothers

By Caroline Marcus
SYDNEY MORNING HERALD
March 4, 2007

MOTHERS are responsible for seven out of 10 international parental child abductions, an Australian study has found. And the most common reason for the abduction is flight from an abusive relationship.
The findings of the International Social Service Australia (ISS) report present a sharp contrast to the 1970s, when fathers were overwhelmingly the perpetrators of parental abductions.
The key findings of the paper, titled Learning From The Links Between Domestic Violence And International Parental Child Abduction, were released to The Sun-Herald ahead of the report's publication later this month.
The results revealed a huge cultural shift over the past three decades, ISS executive director Maria Brett said.
"In the 1970s, it was a different time and a different environment, and we saw a lot of unhappy men wanting more contact with their children resorting to abduction," she said.
"These days, there are more women in domestic violence cases abducting their children and taking them overseas."
In the 1970s, fathers were responsible for 80 out of 99 cases analysed in a previous study drawn on by the report. The mother was the abductor in 18 of those cases.
Yet in 1999 women made up 70 per cent of abductors in an analysis of 1080 applications under the 1980 Hague Convention, an international treaty set up to deal with child abductions.
Men comprised 29 per cent of abductors and the remaining 1 per cent included abductors of both sexes - grandparents or another relative.
In 78 per cent of cases, abducted children were younger than nine years old.

This article can be found at:
http://www.smh.com.au/news/national/70-of-abductions-are-by-mothers/2007/03/03/1172868811287.html#
...

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THE JUDGE AS BATTERER

A Sampling of 25 Years of Supporting Literature
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“Each time that I appeared in court, the system reinforced his dominance over me by preserving his parental ‘rights’ without regard to my safety. I felt totally undermined by the court.” -PW in Justice Denied

[ Chesler, 1991, 1986 ] MOTHERS ON TRIAL: THE BATTLE FOR CHILDREN AND CUSTODY. The book. Mothers were not rescued from individually violent men by policemen, social workers, lawyers, or other family members. Judges did not rescue mothers from violent men either. On the contrary, the (large number of) domestically violent fathers, including those who kidnapped their children, were not imprisoned, fined, or custodially punished. Of the 12 percent of the mothers who kidnapped their children (Table Two), 80 percent were imprisoned, fined, or custodially punished ... Sixty-two percent of the fathers used violence to win custody. They physically battered, psychologically terrorized, and physically ejected mothers from their homes; they kidnapped, and, with the help of mother competitors, brainwashed children ...

[
Ducote, 1992 ] POST-SEPARATION FAMILY VIOLENCE RELIEF ACT. The legislation. The legislature further finds that the problems of family violence do not necessarily cease when the victimized family is legally separated or divorced. In fact, the violence often escalates, and child custody and visitation become the new forum for the continuation of the abuse. Because current laws relative to child custody and visitation are based on an assumption that even divorcing parents are in relatively equal positions of power, and that such parents act in the children’s best interest, these laws often work against the protection of the children and the abused spouse in families with a history of family violence. Consequently, laws designed to act in the children’s best interest may actually effect a contrary result due to the unique dynamics of family violence ...

[
American Judges Association, 1996 ] DOMESTIC VIOLENCE & THE COURTROOM. The article. Studies show that batterers have been able to convince authorities that the victim is unfit or undeserving of sole custody in approximately 70% of challenged cases ...

[
United States Congress, 1997 ] SAFE HAVENS FOR CHILDREN ACT OF 1997 - FINDINGS. The bill.
(1) Family violence does not necessarily cease when family victims are legally separated by divorce or otherwise not sharing a household.
(2) According to a 1996 report by the American Psychological Association, custody and visitation disputes are more frequent when there is a history of domestic violence.
(3) Family violence often escalates following separation and divorce, and child custody and visitation arrangements become the new forum for the continuation of abuse.
(4) According to a 1996 report by the American Psychological Association, fathers who batter mothers are twice as likely [as non-violent men] to seek sole custody of their children. In these circumstances,
if the abusive father loses custody he is more likely to continue the threats to the mother through other legal actions.
(5) Some perpetrators of violence use the children as pawns to control the abused party and to commit more violence during separation or divorce. In one study, 34 percent of women in shelters and callers to hotlines reported threats of kidnapping, 11 percent reported that the batterer had kidnapped the child for some period, and 21 percent reported that threats of kidnapping forced the victim to return to the batterer.
(6) Approximately 90 percent of children in homes in which their mothers are abused witness the abuse. Children who witness domestic violence may themselves become victims and exhibit more aggressive, antisocial, fearful, and inhibited behaviors. Such children display more anxiety, aggression and temperamental problems.
(7) Women and children are at an elevated risk of violence during the process of separation or divorce.
(8) Fifty to 70 percent of men who abuse their spouses or partners also abuse their children.
(9) Up to 75 percent of all domestic assaults reported to law enforcement agencies were inflicted after the separation of the couple.
(10) In one study of spousal homicide, over 1/2 of the male defendants were separated from their victims.
(11) Seventy-three percent of battered women seeking emergency medical services do so after separation ...

[
Supreme Court of Virginia, 2000 ] GENDER BIAS IN THE COURTS OF THE COMMONWEALTH OF VIRGINIA. The study. [There is also a]n apparent lack of recognition by judges in both Juvenile & Domestic Relations court and in Circuit Court of ... (ii) the abuser’s use of legal processes to continue to manipulate and control the family. In fact, many abusers appear to be manipulating the court. In such cases, it is not sufficient to look only at the context painted by the abuser; it is necessary to view the proceeding currently before the court in the light of the other proceedings involving the parties (e.g., where the abuser constantly sues the victim, harasses her attorney and others who help her, threatens witnesses, or uses child visitation, custody and support issues as an excuse to bring the family back into court many times a year.) ...

[
Silverman, 2001 ] AMERICAN PUBLIC HEALTH ASSOCIATION - THE IMPACT OF FAMILY COURTS ON BATTERED WOMEN AND THEIR CHILDREN IN CASES OF DISPUTED CHILD CUSTODY AND VISITATION: PRELIMINARY FINDINGS OF THE BATTERED MOTHERS’ TESTIMONY PROJECT. The paper. Family courts are frequently reported to promote the endangerment of battered mothers and their children through awarding child custody or unsupervised child visitation to batterers, even in cases involving batterers’ continuing abuse of the mother, and/or outstanding allegations of child abuse involving these men. Previous analyses of court records have documented biases against battered women by the Massachusetts Family and Probate Court in such cases. This systemic mistreatment of battered women and their children has received little attention relative to other DV issues, despite an expanding literature describing the risks to children from battering men. This presentation will review the goals and methodology of the Battered Mothers’ Testimony Project, a collaboration of public health researchers, battered women’s advocates and human rights workers to examine the impact of family court systems on the health, safety and well-being of battered women and their children in cases of disputed custody/visitation. Preliminary findings from semi-structured interviews with 50 battered mothers regarding (1) experiences of abuse against themselves and their children, both during the relationship and since separation; (2) whether and how the batterer has continued to intimidate/abuse her through family court litigation; (3) experiences with state actors of the family court system (e.g., judges, custody evaluators); and (4) other concerns regarding their treatment within the family court system (e.g., discrimination based on race, sexual orientation, and/or socioeconomic status) will be presented. Plans for dissemination of information, organizing and activism to reform state policies and practices based on these findings will also be discussed ...

[ Supreme Court of Virginia, 2001 ] INFLUENCES ON JUDGES’ DECISIONS IN CHILD CUSTODY DISPUTES IN THE COMMONWEALTH OF VIRGINIA. The study. “Pages 4, 6, 7, 20, 21, 23, 24, 29, 30, 38, 39, 40, 41, 53, 55, and 57 of this Supreme Court of Virginia 2001 study are especially relevant to the current trend of awarding custody of children to fathers who are abusive, violent, and dangerously controlling men, narcissists, and sociopaths …” -VW


[
Bancroft, 2002 ] THE BATTERER AS PARENT: ADDRESSING THE IMPACT OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE ON FAMILY DYNAMICS (CHAPTER FIVE). Impeding Recovery: The Batterer in Custody and Visitation. The book. Batterers win custody of their children with greater frequency [than] is generally realized. Although it is widely believed that family courts have a bias in favor of mothers, custody studies have demonstrated that since the 1970's, fathers have been at a marked advantage in custody disputes. There is a general reluctance among family courts in the U.S. and abroad to consider a man's battering as a reflection on his parenting or a factor in determining custody ...

[ BMTP, 2004 ] BATTERED MOTHERS’ TESTIMONY PROJECT - Researchers Say Massachusetts Family Courts Fail to Protect Battered Women and Their Children; Study Applies Human Rights Analysis to Child Custody Cases Involving Domestic Violence. The project. “Battered mothers face a perilous irony,” said Silverman. “Authorities push these women to leave abusive men in order to protect their children. But women who can make this break then face family courts, another authority that often ignores this history of abuse as a threat to children’s safety and, perversely, concludes that women’s attempts to protect their children from these men actually demonstrate their own lack of fitness as mothers” ...

[
Jaffe, 2005 ] JUDICIAL COUNCIL OF CALIFORNIA CENTER FOR FAMILIES, CHILDREN & THE COURTS - PARENTING ARRANGEMENTS AFTER DOMESTIC VIOLENCE: SAFETY AS A PRIORITY IN JUDGING CHILDREN’S BEST INTEREST. The article. Perpetrators [of domestic violence] may use perpetual litigation as a form of ongoing control and harassment. The family court can inadvertently become a tool for batterers to continue their abusive behavior. Litigation exacts a high emotional and financial price for abused women already overwhelmed with the aftermath of a violent relationship ... Indicators that this misuse is occurring include an investment in custody and/or access that is out of keeping with a parent's previous involvement in child rearing ...

[ Kiewra, 2005 ] HARVARD SCHOOL OF PUBLIC HEALTH - HARVARD PUBLIC HEALTH REVIEW: MISCARRIAGE OF JUSTICE. The article. The 40 women came from towns across Massachusetts and from all walks of life, yet their stories were the same -- shocking tales of battering and harassment at the hands of abusive ex-partners. Long after separation or divorce, the women said, their torment continued, aided and abetted by judges who gave unsupervised visitation and custody of their children to violent & controlling men …

[ Legal Momentum, 2005 ] LEGAL MOMENTUM ADVANCING WOMEN’S RIGHTS - DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AND CHILD CUSTODY. The kit. In no other area of family law are battered women and their children inadvertently subjected to greater physical and emotional harm than in the child custody and visitation context. Battered women are often forced to participate in custody arrangements that require mediation, unsupervised custody and visitation, and other types of exchanges that leave them and their children vulnerable to continued abuse and control at the hands of their batterers. Women who try to protect themselves and their children by seeking sole custody or modifications in custody arrangements such as cessation of visitation, supervised visits, or who flee with their children are penalized by having custody taken away and given to their batterers. Despite the perception that mothers always win custody, when fathers contest custody, they win sole or joint custody in 40% to 70% of the cases. Indeed, even in cases where abuse is reported, a batterer is twice as likely to win custody over a non-abusive parent than in cases where no abuse is reported …

[
Neustein & Lesher, 2005 ] FROM MADNESS TO MUTINY: WHY MOTHERS ARE RUNNING FROM THE FAMILY COURTS--AND WHAT CAN BE DONE ABOUT IT. The book. "A groundbreaking new book that is perhaps the most highly readable scholarly work I’ve encountered in my 14 years in academia ... The very first to provide the historical and contextual chronology of this system’s steady decline into chaos and corruption over the past two decades. It is eminently accurate and rigorously documented -- a book that will hit scholars, professionals, and lay persons right between their eyes. This is the book that mothers have been waiting for ..." -Dr. "Mo" Hannah

[
PBS, 2005 ] PUBLIC BROADCASTING SERVICE - BREAKING THE SILENCE: CHILDREN'S STORIES. The documentary. One of the most effective ways an abusive father can inflict pain and declare his domination is to take custody of his children away from their mother. As Joan Meier, an attorney and professor of clinical law, explains, “To win custody of the kids over and against the mother’s will is the ultimate victory ... short of killing the kids.” While there may be a perception in society that the family court system has a maternal preference, statistics show that, in the past twenty years, fathers are more often being awarded custody. Furthermore, in family court cases where mothers allege battery, fathers are given custody two-thirds of the time ...

[
Griffin, 2006 ] PROTECTIVE PARENT REFORM ACT (Conceived and Drafted by Richard Ducote, Esq.). The legislation. In the state of Maryland, courts have committed grave errors in cases in which molested children have sought protection from an abusive parent. By failing to follow basic rules of procedure and evidence – in essence, by failing to follow due process of law – these courts have often ignored compelling evidence of abuse and – conversely – have allowed hearsay and other inadmissible evidence presented by children’s attorneys, custody evaluators, mental health professionals, mediators, screeners, and other such persons traditionally participating in child custody and visitation cases to guide the court in their custody and visitation rulings. In so doing, courts have too often inadvertently and tragically placed children in the hands of their molesters. Thus, reform is required in the state of Maryland, by way of the Protective Parent Reform Act (“PPRA”). This act is meant to ensure that a parent who reasonably believes that his or her child is threatened by child abuse perpetrated or allowed by the other parent is not punished by a Maryland court, or penalized by loss of custody, or limitation of contact or visitation ...

[
Hannah, 2007 ] FOURTH BATTERED MOTHERS CUSTODY CONFERENCE - TRUTH COMMISSION FINDINGS AND SOLUTIONS. The report. [T]here is a widespread problem of abusive parents being granted custody of children and protective parents, [primarily mothers], having their custody limited or denied, and/or being otherwise punished ... [O]nce abusers gain custody, they then isolate and estrange the children from the protective parents. Courts seldom punish the abusers or switch custody back to the protective parents ... The court system has failed to respond appropriately to domestic violence and child abuse cases involving custody. The Commission found many common errors made by the courts and the professionals they rely upon which contribute to these tragedies ... Sanctions against abusers and the courts must be used to prevent abusers from using legal tactics to continue their abuse through the courts ...

[
Saunders & Oehme, 2007 ] VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN - CHILD CUSTODY AND VISITATION DECISIONS IN DOMESTIC VIOLENCE CASES: LEGAL TRENDS, RISK FACTORS, AND SAFETY CONCERNS. The article. It may be hard to believe that an abusive partner can ever make good on his threat to gain custody of the children from his victim. After all, he has a history of violent behavior and she almost never does. Unfortunately, a surprising number of battered women lose custody of their children (e.g., Saccuzzo & Johnson, 2004). This document describes how this can happen through uninformed and biased courts, court staff, evaluators, and attorneys and how the very act of protecting ones' children can lead to their loss ...

[ Bowen, 2008 / also Ruiz, 2008 ] VOICES OF WOMEN ORGANIZING PROJECT - REPORT: ABUSED WOMEN SEE DANGER IN FAMILY COURT. The articles. Susan Lob says it's simple: Good mothers should keep their children. But Lob, director of the New York-based Voices of Women Organizing Project, says that doesn't always happen in the New York family court system when it's women who have been abused by their children's fathers. Instead, in a report released today, Voices of Women says family courts retraumatize battered women by forcing them to confront men they fear and granting custody to abusers 37 percent of the time despite the women's roles as primary caregivers. "What struck us was the impossibility of women losing custody to the men who abused them," said Lob. "That just seemed unbelievable." The group laid out four recommendations … Authors issued specific suggestions for each of the four recommendations, including increasing accountability for judges by halving 10-year judicial appointments to five-year terms and seeing children in courtrooms at least once a year to ensure custody decisions are benefiting them …

[ Meier, 2008 ] THE WASHINGTON POST - WHY THIS MOTHER WAS NOT HEARD. The editorial. Contrary to stereotypes, most divorcing mothers do not seek to deprive the children of their father. Most settle out of court. Only about 20 percent of cases become "contested custody litigation." It's not surprising that a large proportion of these "bitter custody disputes" involve violent or abusive fathers. It is time courts faced the truth: Custody litigants frequently have a history of abuse. Men who abuse their partners often pose a threat to their children. Most women seeking to restrict fathers' access to their children are doing so out of legitimate fear for their well-being. And too many children are delivered to dangerous fathers by family courts that prioritize fathers' "rights" over children's safety …

[ NCJFCJ, 2008 ] NATIONAL COUNCIL OF JUVENILE AND FAMILY COURT JUDGES - A JUDICIAL GUIDE TO CHILD SAFETY IN CUSTODY CASES. The bench cards. This tool is designed to maximize a child’s safety as you determine issues of custody and visitation and can help you … This tool will also assist you in conducting a thoughtful exploration of the child’s safety risks when abusive behavior has been part of the family fabric. Sometimes, the parties may not articulate clearly either the abuse or the child’s safety risks during litigation. Indicators may be present that require you to explore the possibility that one parent is putting the other parent or the child at risk of abuse. Because the abused parent might not directly raise issues of physical abuse or other forms of control, you will want to be aware of indicators of abusive behaviors that may alter the dynamics of the litigation process. This tool will explore the various behaviors that you might encounter, both from the controlling and abusive parent, and from the controlled and abused parent. Organization of the Bench Tool: This supplemental guide and the attached bench cards follow your decision-making from the initial filing through drafting and enforcing the order. While much of the material is presented in procedural order, there are also bench cards and chapters devoted to topics and issues that can arise throughout litigation. The authors suggest that you first read the cards as an introduction to the topics addressed. This supplement, to which the cards are keyed, offers additional information and suggests further resources at the end of the guide, and in footnotes ...

[ NOW, 2008 ] NATIONAL ORGANIZATION FOR WOMEN - CRISIS FOR WOMEN IN FAMILY COURT: WHAT TO EXPECT AND HOW TO FIGHT BACK. The brochure. There is a crisis for women and their children in many of the family law courts of this country. Affirmed by experts and skilled court watchers, the existence of this crisis is verified by women in every state who report injustice in their divorce and custody cases. This is true especially for battered mothers trying to protect their children from abusive fathers who aggressively litigate against them, using family courts to stalk, harass, punish, and impoverish their former partners and children. Some fathers are aided by friendly judges and court-appointed personnel …

[ BWJP, 2009 ] BATTERED WOMEN’S JUSTICE PROJECT - DEVELOPMENT OF A FRAMEWORK FOR IDENTIFYING AND EXPLICATING THE CONTEXT OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IN CUSTODY CASES AND ITS IMPLICATIONS FOR CUSTODY DETERMINATIONS. The project. BWJP has been invited to apply for a grant from the USDOJ Office on Violence Against Women
for a demonstration project to develop a framework to guide custody and visitation decisions in cases involving domestic violence. Research on custody and visitation determinations provide troubling evidence that procedures currently in use in family courts often fail to identify, contextualize and account for the occurrence of domestic violence in these cases, and if identified, its presence seems not to consistently affect the court’s recommendations regarding custody or visitation arrangements … The desired outcome of this project is to provide family courts with a process by which the violence occurring in these families is made visible, its context and the related safety issues are more clearly understood, and as a result, its implications for custody and parenting plan arrangements can be taken into account more effectively to protect the emotional and physical well-being of the litigants and their children. The project will be funded for two years and is scheduled to begin in the summer of 2009 …

[
Bancroft, 2009 ] CHILD CUSTODY JUSTICE. The tutorial. An abused woman can be vulnerable in family court if she comes in with unfounded expectations. Perhaps the most widespread myth is the belief that mothers are favored by courts in custody disputes, which stopped being true decades ago. It is true that for roughly the first half of the 1900's the "Tender Years Doctrine" was influential, and mothers had some advantage in gaining custody of young children. (Prior to about 1900, mothers had no rights regarding custody at all.) But in the 1970's the tide was turning back, for various reasons, and by the 1980's fathers were winning at least joint custody in a majority of the custody battles they undertook, and winning sole custody more often than mothers, a situation that remains today. And the fathers who are taking advantage of this imbalance are largely abusive ones; researchers have found that abusers are twice as likely as non-abusive men to seek custody …

[ Eddy, 2009 ] HIGH CONFLICT INSTITUTE - HANDLING DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IN NEW WAYS FOR FAMILIES. The institute. Domestic violence is an area of growing concern in family courts, as highlighted by the 2007 Wingspread Conference and Report sponsored by the Association of Family and Conciliation Courts (AFCC) and National Council of Juvenile and Family Court Judges (NCJFCJ). Differentiating among at least four different types of domestic violence is recognized as very important, yet in reality the adversarial court process often clouds these issues more than clarifies them … Historically, family law professionals have not recognized the significance of domestic violence risks in some cases and have exaggerated concerns in others. In the process, some partners and children have been seriously injured or killed, while other children have lost a meaningful relationship with one of their parents because of unnecessarily-restrictive parenting orders …

[ Cuccinelli, 2010 ] OFFICE OF THE ATTORNEY GENERAL OF VIRGINIA - CUT OUT DOMESTIC VIOLENCE: WHY DO VICTIMS STAY? The fact sheet. People often believe that victims of domestic violence will be safe if they just leave the batterer. But a battered person is not free to separate from an abuser at any time and there are many barriers to leaving. The biggest reason that a victim of domestic violence stays in an abusive relationship is fear. Victims believe, and the evidence has shown, that leaving is potentially the most deadly time … Barriers also may include: Fear that the children will be taken away – Batterers threaten that they will take the children (either legally or illegally) if the victim dares to leave the relationship …

[ Hannah & Goldstein, 2010 ] DOMESTIC VIOLENCE, ABUSE, AND CHILD CUSTODY: LEGAL STRATEGIES AND POLICY ISSUES. The collection. “Women trapped in relationships with abusers come to expect horrendous misbehavior from their partners. What they cannot fathom is the maddening reinforcement commonly provided to abusive men by the justice system and the public at large ... That key abuse collaborator is the custody judge. Of all of the actors in a battered woman’s life, none wield more power over her children and financial future. It is beyond infuriating when women discover that their custody judges lack understanding of DV and are colluding with abusers to take away women’s financial resources and, even worse, their children.” -MB ( Available April 2010 but here's a preview )

... My mother is a formerly battered woman who is the first American to receive asylum in Europe. My brother and I were abused children who were failed by ... -Jennifer Collins

Veronique Wyvell, RN
Member, Fairfax County Network Against Family Abuse
Founder, MOMMY GO BYE BYE: Mothers Against Unjust Law
7831 Enola Street, #TA7, McLean, Virginia 22102

MAUL (Mothers Against Unjust Law) Goals:
Rebuttable PRESUMPTIONS Against Custody for Batterers
PPAs (Parenting Plan Agreements) before Litigation
Moratorium on CCEs (Child Custody Evaluations)
MINIMUM Parent-Time Schedules (UTAH Code)
JURY Trials (in Domestic Relations Cases)
PROTECTIVE Parent Reform Acts
DIGITAL Courtroom Records
ALI's Approximation Rule
TERM LIMITS for Judges
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'Exit brilliantly' with a little help from Va. guru of divorce Zarozny because not even Sen. Janet Howell will give a hoot if your case goes all wrong


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Thursday, January 7, 2010

iReport She helps people "get unmarried" and manages a website called Brilliant Exits.


The Washington Post has written about her and so has Fairfax Woman
. Her name is Sharon Zarozny, her business divorce counseling and divorce coaching. I highly recommend that anyone wanting to leave a marriage in Northern Virginia call her before they call that attorney. She's going to try to keep you out of court or at least try to keep you safe if not going to court is not an option. (She is not for you if an all-out custody war is what you are craving.) She will warn you that many attorneys are "in it to win it."


"They don't have to care about what's left of your family," Ms. Zarozny told Amanda Long last August during an interview for First Person Singular. She's right. And it's a rare divorce lawyer who doesn't consider a monied, narcissistic professional a "good catch." I've seen family lawyers prostitute themselves and throw ethics to the wind to satisfy the narcissistic urges of a wealthy abuser (and how often are narcissistic urges "family-friendly?"). I've seen judges go along, even seeming to "enjoy the show": How the Bench Stole Christmas. Click, read and see how I have tried hard to solicit the support, and concern, of my state senator. Janet Howell didn't care, doesn't care still.*

People like Sharon care. She's a good find. We mothers, especially, are lucky to have her. I am cautioning you: nobody will give a hoot if your case goes all wrong (not even the state senator for your district whose most important responsibility as your elected public servant is to appoint good people to the bench). So don't let it happen, do your homework, get informed. Get "court smart."

See Sharon, and make yours a brilliant exit.

~V. Wyvell, Mommy Go Bye Bye blogger, CNN iReporter

A CNN iReport: http://www.ireport.com/docs/DOC-378969

Women often don’t know how to safeguard their rights, nor can they circumvent corruption that’s built into the legal and judicial professions
[ Source: U.N. Tackles Universal Problem for Women: Divorce ]

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*Paid for by Citizens for Janet Howell. Authorized by Janet Howell.



I

lived

with


domestic

abuse


for

11

months.



I

have

lived

with


judicial

abuse


for

11

years.




State Senator Janet Howell says she
"has been a tireless crusader for the victims of domestic violence."


State Senator Janet Howell says she
"is a leader in the fight to prevent family violence."


State Senator Janet Howell says she
"wants to break the cycle of domestic violence and child abuse."



I am abused by judges who were

screened, appointed, and confirmed

by State Senator Janet Howell.


~ Veronique Wyvell ~
How I became an opportunity