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We are not complaining, in this place, about a simple problem of discrimination against women in litigation. From this place, we are cautioning the public about a serious situation of maltreatment of women in litigation when these women are mothers. ~Veronique W.

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.......................................In most cases mothers are pathologized or demonized in order to create the appearance of a justification for the extreme actions taken. When the bad decisions backfire in a way that demonstrates even to the courts that the wrong decision was made, the defenders of the courts like to believe these cases constitute the exceptions to the usual good job done by courts. There is now a large body of research about these cases that show there are too many cases with extreme results and flawed practices to be conveniently dismissed as exceptions.” -Barry Goldstein in A Cancer Spreading in the Custody Court System on 16 Sep 2010

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..............................This is another reason why the Battered Mothers Custody Conference is so valuable. At least for that one weekend each year, we are among friends, we can speak the truth, the reality may not be pleasant but at least we can escape the pretend world of the courts and the abusers. It is important for protective mothers to know they are not alone. Other wonderful people are going through the same attacks and being pathologized by unqualified ‘experts.’” -Barry Goldstein in History of the Battered Mothers Custody Conference on 8 Dec 2010

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....... My profile? Intact. Fortunately my own dad was there to stop his fist. ....... Then the courts gave him our baby and finished me off.
PS - To those of you who might think I am nothing but an interfering, critical, histrionic nitwit, let me just say the Supreme Court of Virginia visits my Web site almost every day.

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Yes, Shivani, “sadly Brigitte Deel doesn’t have a facebook.” She has, however, a mother who loves her very much. This is not a secret neighbors at Belmont Country Club should be keeping from her, that is, if she is truly loved by them. I hope the community will lead my daughter to your facebook page.

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A mother won her "greatest fight" by refusing to submit to the judge who tried to abuse her. Click on her video, and as you scroll down my blog, listen for what this non-offending mother told that custody judge who played bully and lost. -Veronique Wyvell

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ADVISORY ... FAIRFAX COURTHOUSE SLAUGHTERHOUSE For Fit Mothers: Virginia judges say a father may hurt the mother of his child, by abusing her, without hurting his chances of gaining custody (mgbb). Judges surveyed for Influences on Judges' Decisions in Child Custody Disputes in the Commonwealth of Virginia further reveal that children over five go to fathers more than they go to mothers when cases go to court (pdf). Pages 4, 6, 7, 20, 21, 23, 24, 29, 30, 38, 39, 40, 41, 53, 55, and 57 in House Document No. 24, A 2001 Report of The Supreme Court of Virginia Office of The Executive Secretary to The Governor and The General Assembly of Virginia, are especially relevant to the current trend of awarding custody of children to fathers who are abusive, controlling, manipulative, violent men, narcissists, and sociopaths (oes). {According to a 1996 report by the Am. Psychological Assoc., fathers who batter mothers are twice as likely as non-violent men to seek sole custody of children (apa).}

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WARNING ... VIRGINIA COURTHOUSES SLAUGHTERHOUSES For Fit Mothers: In Virginia, rulings by custody judges may result in destitution (even bankruptcy) and childlessness for women who are fit mothers leaving an abusive man and escaping a violent relationship. “Custody transfers to abusive men are rare” and other myths as reported by the American Bar Association Commission on Domestic Violence (ABA Ten Myths, 2006), the Leadership Council on Child Abuse and Interpersonal Violence (LC Six Myths, 2006), and the National Council of Juvenile and Family Court Judges Family Violence Department (NCJFCJ Seven Myths, 2003) -- though still rumored by the public -- contribute to the butchering of fit mothers everyday by our state bench. All fit mothers hoping to preserve their resources and their parenthoods should understand those misconceptions now officially recognized -- though still rejected by the public -- about the well-studied connection between “intimate partner violence” and “child custody litigation” before entering any courtroom of our Commonwealth of Virginia. If you are a fit mother who was slaughtered by a state judge in a disputed case involving custody of a child you produced with an abusive and violent man, please join your sisters each fall in Richmond for JUDICIAL INTERVIEWS. {I will post 2010 event date, time, place and relevant vitals here by mid November, or parents may contact Mary Kate Felch directly. -Veronique W. on 10.5.10} ALL MAULED MOMS FROM ALL ACROSS VIRGINIA SHOULD PLAN TO BE IN HOUSE ROOM C OF THE GENERAL ASSEMBLY BUILDING IN DOWNTOWN RICHMOND FOR 'JUDICIAL INTERVIEWS OF INCUMBENTS 2010' ON DECEMBER 10 ALL DAY LONG (Starts at 8:30AM). {I will post here the link for the Felch Agenda & Interview Schedule. -V. Wyvell on 10.22.10} SCHEDULE FOR DEC. 2010 'JUDICIAL INTERVIEWS' NOW VIEWABLE BY CLICKING HERE. Your offending judge just might be up for re-appointment this year! Look for that judge's name in this list. If you have something to say about the performances of Judges Bonnie Davis, Gerald Daltan and Esther Wiggins-Lyles, please join your sisters in saying it. Sign up with Mary Kate Felch today! Several aggrieved moms are booked to speak already! MEETING INFO BY CLICKING HERE (Scroll Down to "12/10/10 8:30 a.m.").

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>>>> No custody judge in Virginia should expect to get away with behaving like a bully. PERIOD.

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A Washington Post article . . . Judge Go Bye Bye 2009 . . . please read it!

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Story by Tom Jackman,
NORTHERN VIRGINIA JUDGE CONFRONTED BY LOCAL MOMS OUSTED

A mother's testimony...took out a Fairfax County circuit judge. The same court had denied her motions to disqualify Zuckerman and remove him from her case.

Va. Judge Selection Process Criticized: Group Challenges Lack of Public Input >>> By Tom Jackman >>> Washington Post Staff Writer >>> Monday, March 2, 2009 >>> www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2009/03/01/AR2009030101882.html (www.box.com/s/y2dr45g485e3tm61nn0y)

Our carnivalesque judicial selection process, the clowning around starts here . . .

Our carnivalesque judicial selection process, the clowning around starts here . . .
House Room C of the General Assembly Building in Richmond, on December 10, 2010, in the moments before it would begin to fill eventually to near capacity with concerned citizens from all over Virginia; many came armed with speeches to oppose the re-appointment of incumbent judges to another term for this year’s “Judicial Interviews.” {Missed it Friday? Don’t fret, there’s always next year. Your offending judge just might be up for re-appointment in Dec. of 2011. So look for that judge’s name in this preliminary list (which is subject to change as judges advance to another court, retire, resign, die or are fired because people just like YOU got involved in this effort to remove unfit, corrupt or otherwise disabled judges), and if you see your judge listed, know that it's not too soon for you to begin to prepare for “Judicial Interviews of Incumbents 2011”: Richard Wallerstein, 7/1/2006-6/30/2012; Glenn Clayton, 10/1/2006-9/30/2012; Frank Somerville, 7/1/2006-6/30/2012; James Almand, 2/1/2004-1/31/2012… Continues on Facebook}

A circus, with our GA apt to certify sub-judges, circuit chiefs do a lot of the hiring

…How can this happen? Why do judges in Virginia issue court orders that can make an innocent-enough person feel like the victim of a “hate crime” when some sensibly administered justice would have sufficed? This can happen to people in Virginia because the judicial selection and re-selection process is deformed and has created a judiciary that is inbred which is producing even greater deformity as judicial rulings deteriorate and as judicial respect--for the dignity and the resources of litigants--decline.... ...Furthermore, I have noticed, when a judge advances to another court in mid-term, his or her interview is postponed, that is, delayed by the length of the term associated with that particular court (minus the number of years remaining in the old term): 6 years for district court, 8 for circuit, 8 for appeals and 12 for supreme. With the Judicial Performance Evaluation (JPE) program now cancelled by decision of the 2009 legislative session, “interviews,” known officially as “Judicial Interviews of Incumbents,” is the only screening mechanism in place, acting to protect citizen-consumers of legal services from defective judges. The event is annual and it really is Virginia’s ultimate oversight agency for the judiciary because even “Judicial Inquiry and Review Commission” board members must submit to “interviews.” But, and especially since most members of the general public do not go to “interviews,” it is mostly a “rubber-stamp affair.” Citizens, tragically, are skipping “interviews” because it is such a poorly promoted event, and sitting judges, apparently, are skipping “interviews” because jurists promoted before the end of their term slip through such a poorly designed system for screening them.... Our Carnivalesque Judicial Selection Process, read more, http://mommygobyebye-virginia.blogspot.com/2009/05/referendumtime-dumb-disgusting-outright.html


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FOREWORD by Robin Yeamans, Esq. }find her on facebook

I never refer to a case as "high conflict." When you dig down to the bottom of a case labeled "high conflict," you find domestic violence and abuse. The two sides are not identically culpable. -R.Y.
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"If so, what does that relationship look like?" -Eric Holder*

"If so, what does that relationship look like?" -Eric Holder*
*Former judge on the Superior Court of the District of Columbia (Photograph clickable)

Commentary "A" by the APA Public Interest Directorate in a 1998 Report of the American Psychological Association Presidential Task Force On Violence And The Family on ISSUES AND DILEMMAS IN FAMILY VIOLENCE beginning WHEN PARENTS SEPARATE AFTER AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP, SHOULDN'T FATHERS HAVE AS MUCH RIGHT AS MOTHERS TO BE GRANTED PHYSICAL CUSTODY OF AND VISITATION RIGHTS WITH THEIR CHILDREN? and Commentary "B" by the American Judges Association in a 2002 Court Review Special Issue on DOMESTIC VIOLENCE beginning THE PARENTING OF MEN WHO BATTER

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Focus of January 2011 BMCC VIII will be to connect mothers

Focus of January 2011 BMCC VIII will be to connect mothers
Register online for Dr. Hannah's next conference by going to BatteredMothersCustodyConference.org (Click announcement)

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I personally receive calls, e-mails, and letters from protective mothers all over this country, as well as overseas, begging for help with their cases. The overriding theme is that their abusive ex-partner already has won or is about to "win" custody of their children. Ladies, think this could never happen to YOU? All you need to do is have a biological child with someone who is psychopathic, narcissistic, abusive, or otherwise sick enough to be willing--in his efforts to harm you--to cause massive harm to your child, as well. His task is simple enough; all he has to do is lie and manipulate the court system, making wild claims that you are a "fabricator," "crazy," "addicted," or an "alienator." He can then pay off all the court agents who are willing to do his bidding and take everything he says as the gospel truth, in exchange for his right to exercise power, control, and abuse over you and your kids until they reach majority age. The family court system, as it seems to currently operate, amounts to little more than a black market that gives children and babies to the highest bidder. The ONLY thing keeping this Potemkin village-like fiasco going in our family courts is the secrecy that cloaks the misdeeds. We need a deeply serious and impartial investigation of the family court systems of all 50 states, conducted by authorities with the will and the power to massively reform this corrupt machine. See http://www.batteredmotherscustodyconference.org/ for additional documentation about the family court fiasco. -Dr. Mo Therese Hannah, BMCC Chair and Protective Mothers Advocate, in public comment two years ago, in 2008

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Court appointees make profit by placing children in harm’s way. -Dr. Phil Show

Court appointees make profit by placing children in harm’s way. -Dr. Phil Show
Dr. Phil is now talking about it. If you missed the original airing of “Crisis in Family Court” on 14 April 2010, catch a rerun by checking his website regularly for its list of future shows. (“Crisis in Family Court” was repeated recently on August 14 and August 18; DVDs and transcripts can be ordered at DrPhil.com)

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Dr. Phil is looking for victims of “parental alienation” for an upcoming show: “Victim of Parental Alienation?” (“Do you believe that your ex-spouse, or soon-to-be ex-spouse, is preventing you from seeing your child? Do you believe that your ex is currently committing ‘parental alienation’ by making it very difficult OR preventing you from seeing your son or daughter? If you would like Dr. Phil’s help in mediating this issue and you’re also willing to appear on TV, please e-mail your story.”) Upcoming show topics also include: “Ex-Spouse Causing Your Child To Hate You?” (“Are you separated or recently divorced and you fear that your ex-spouse is alienating you from your child? Have you noticed a negative change in your child’s attitude and behavior towards you? Do you feel that your ex-spouse is the reason why your child is mistreating or ignoring you? If you would like Dr. Phil’s help in mediating this issue and you’re also willing to appear on TV, please e-mail your story.”) and “Who’s Right???” (“Is there a person in your life that blames you for everything? Do you want them to accept responsibility and end this blame game? Is someone in your life not admitting the harm they've caused you? Do they refuse to admit they are wrong? If so and YOU ARE WILLING TO APPEAR ON THE SHOW, tell us your story.”) -VW on 9.7.10

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Watch Kathleen Russell on Dr. Phil's "Crisis in Family Court"

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Q: What does the Zuckerman say? A: “Quack! Quack!”

Q: What does the Zuckerman say? A: “Quack! Quack!”
Court appointee William B. Zuckerman, Ph.D., telephoned a leader of the fathers’ rights group in Virginia and offered to help member fathers win custody. DR. ZUCKERMAN DIDN’T KNOW HE WAS TALKING TO MY FRIEND. William B. Zuckerman, Ph.D., never has telephoned a leader of the mothers’ rights movement in Virginia and never has offered to help member mothers gain custody. -Veronique Wyvell (Click pic)

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“Dear Miss: I came across your website when researching Dr. Zuckerman. As you can see from my signature below, I am an attorney. Opposing counsel is attempting to use Zuckerman to assist her client. I believe he is offering terrible advice which is hurting the family more than helping the situation…” ............ -A D.C. lawyer and professor of law at GW, in a spring 2010 message for Miss Veronique Wyvell

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Virginia judges have been forcing parents to watch SPARE THE CHILD since 2000 (video). The Virginia Supreme Court gave Dr. Zuckerman a lead role in the film (letter).

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Sandra Havrilak: She’ll spit on justice even if it means spitting on our children

Sandra Havrilak: She’ll spit on justice even if it means spitting on our children
Find “Support the Disbarment of Sandra Havrilak” on facebook and join the cause. ~Veronique Wyvell {Havrilak lies, Havrilak cheats, Havrilak steals: http://www.box.net/shared/4lv1tb8rz8 for “The Letters 5” (or click image) and http://mommygobyebye-virginia.blogspot.com/2007/12/mark-e-rubin-senior-advisor-to-governor.html for “MARK E. RUBIN SENIOR ADVISOR TO THE GOVERNOR: ‘I can assure you that this information will be considered if Ms. Havrilak’s name comes up…’” (a response from Richmond)}

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Batterers, Barratry, Bedlam and Boycotts

}THE JUDGE AS BATTERER (NO WONDER THAT, MORE THAN EVER BEFORE, WOMEN IN DOMESTIC VIOLENCE CASES EVERYWHERE ARE ON THE RUN, BOLTING WITH THEIR CHILDREN, IN A GLOBAL BACKLASH AGAINST BARRATRY AND A WORLDWIDE BOYCOTT OF THE BENCH): A SAMPLING OF 25 YEARS OF SUPPORTING LITERATURE [Click book cover for an ever growing list of authorities on The Bedlam]

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Family courts, endangering children and punishing women

Family courts, endangering children and punishing women
Order online Dr. Hannah's new collection (with Mr. Goldstein) at CivicResearchInstitute.com

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Mother's Day 2010 at the White House

Peaceful Silent Vigil at The White House in Washington DC on 9 May 2010 Mother’s Day. "A cottage industry of mental health professionals and attorneys with cozy relationships with family court judges routinely bankrupt families with enormous court-ordered fees and often recommend that children be placed with their sexually or physically abusive fathers. Family court judges frequently ignore evidence of abuse, refuse to hear direct testimony from the children, and rubberstamp their cronies’ recommendations. Nurturing mothers are forced to pay costly fees to attend supervised visits with the children they raised, watching helplessly as their children continue to report abuse by their abusers to uncaring visitation monitors. Mothers who speak out about system failure often face judicial retaliation and lose what little time they have with their children. The unregulated cottage industry churns away, generating hundreds of thousands of dollars in fees to experts, while some of the worst cases settle only when the children turn 18. This is a national epidemic that is destroying families across America." (Photograph clickable)

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See the album at Facebook’s Center for Judicial Excellence: “Justice, Accountability, Children's Safety”

"Stop Court Crimes!"

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Sarah, in the 2005 PBS documentary Virginia is refusing to air*

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*"I'm, like, what kind of a person would take you away from your mom?" ... {Regarding little Sarah’s relegation to “day care”: Custody judges in Virginia routinely strip mostly stay-at-home mothers of their babies, toddlers, preschoolers and young children for commitment to full-time and year-long (summers included) placement in day care centers, that is, institutional care by total strangers, or for confinement with live-in and live-out nannies hired by abusive fathers; my own Brigitte was 2 when Judge Vieregg took her out of “mommy care” and gave her to a working couple and commercial care.} ~Veronique Wyvell~ Or, www.box.com/shared/ij7bvyuu7m

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The Custody Judge A "Key Abuse Collaborator"

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. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . J U S T I C E . . W A N T E D . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . My custody order is incoherent. With one document the judge relies on the report and recommendation of a court appointee and removes and replaces the court appointee, a forensic evaluator (the same Child-Sparing screwball and father-puppet that from a witness stand had barked "She doesn't blink! Most people blink!" in testimony on the impact of my eyelid movements on my mothering skills) refusing for 12 years to let me see my raw psychological test data. I'm seeking an attorney who will agree this circuit ruling is not logical and help me suspend/annul the order. I'm not asking for a trial, just a motion to restore the JDR decision of July 1999, our only true & valid order. Veronique Wyvell (tel 703.748.0072), from February 1999 to Oct. 2015, victim of judicial battery, parental persecution, gang rape, highway robbery and general bullshit in the courts of the Commonwealth of Virginia, County of "Fair-facts"

TROY DEEL HAS PROBLEMS NOT CUSTODY … MOTHER IS BRIGITTE’S LAWFUL PARENT

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No oversight, no accountability, no justice

No oversight, no accountability, no justice
"Fairfax County Circuit Court Judge Arthur B. Vieregg Unimpressed by Testimony of Preacher for United States Supreme Court Chief Justice William H. Rehnquist, My Boss the Reverend Dr. George W. Evans" is the title of one of my favorite mommy go bye bye blog postings. Justice Rehnquist attended Sunday services at the church that employed me. He liked our preacher. The preacher liked me. Judge Vieregg, however, didn't care much for either one of us.

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Mothers with a problematic legal case involving Vieregg, the circuit judge, and Zuckerman, the forensic psychologist, should contact me: The evidence has suggested Judge Arthur B. Vieregg and Dr. William B. Zuckerman may have owned real estate together or shared the same residential or mailing address; Vieregg appointed Zuckerman to conduct the Deel/Wyvell custody evaluation. The experience of your Mommy Go Bye Bye blogger has been that these two clowns are nothing more than, and her wish is for readers to take this quite literally, a couple of m----- f------ crooks. (Mr. Vieregg is now with McCammon.)

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THE IMPORTANT NUMBERS TO JUDGE VIEREGG AND DR. ZUCKERMAN HAD NOTHING TO DO WITH MY DAUGHTER’S AGE. Very early in Deel v. Wyvell the question would change from “Where’s the mistake?” to “Who’s making the most mistakes?” Vieregg sat for 3 big trials in 18 mos., in the matter of Brigitte, ages 2-3.

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How do we stop bad judges in Virginia? We start by clicking this poster

How do we stop bad judges in Virginia? We start by clicking this poster
This poster is linked to the community page on Facebook where citizens can retrieve a list naming the judges slated for re-appointment interviews in December 2011 and instructions for signing up to speak to stop the re-appointment of unfit and corrupt judges in Virginia: http://www.facebook.com/pages/Judicial-Interviews-of-Incumbents-2010-Richmond-Virginia/138253656230064. It depicts William B. Zuckerman, Ph.D., clinical psychologist (license no. 0810001150), child custody evaluator and known “paid whore” in the custody courts of the Commonwealth of Virginia. Dr. Zuckerman’s recommendations almost killed my 2-year-old because a judge (Arthur B. Vieregg) followed them. The judge retired in 2007. A FACEBOOK ACCOUNT IS NOT REQUIRED TO ACCESS THE JII COMMUNITY PAGE ON FACEBOOK.

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Name her team and win $100!

[Contest open 9.1.10] WIN $100! I want to offer the first individual who sends me an email containing the name of my daughter’s soccer team (fall 2010) a one hundred dollar bill. Collect your one hundred dollar bill simply by meeting me at her next game. Here she is pictured playing for the Loudoun Tigers All Stars last fall. This message was updated on September 1, 2010, by Veronique Wyvell

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"If you can give up a son, you can give back a daughter." -Miss Wyvell*

"If you can give up a son, you can give back a daughter." -Miss Wyvell*
*Click this photograph for the short story of Deel addiction to hate, jealousy, vengeance, rage, coercive control, manipulation and destruction of families (Next court date in CBOE case is August 19th in Leesburg)

Why won't they let my daughter go?

___________________________________ While in her mid-twenties, Lisa Ferry abandons her baby son in a catholic convent. While in his mid-thirties, Troy Deel abandons his baby son in an adoption scam. They terminate their parental rights to firstborns. Now both in their fifties, Troy and Lisa Deel are obsessed with forcing me out of the life of my child. Why won't they let my daughter go? ~Veronique Wyvell, mother of Brigitte, young victim of lawsuit abuse and foul play in the custody courts of Virginia (or ... The Deels think it’s ok to push custody papers that are not in order … They could be pushing their luck instead)

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Litigation as Psycho-Therapy, Litigation as Murder-Substitute

Litigation as Psycho-Therapy, Litigation as Murder-Substitute
‘WARDING OFF PSYCHIC COLLAPSE’ and ‘HOLDING OFF HATEFUL AND MURDEROUS WISHES’ with CUSTODY WARS: Ethicist and author Michael B. Donner PhD believes, in “tearing the child apart,” lawsuit abusing “parents remain both victim and victimizers in their own internal struggle.” (I believe Dr. Donner is one who “gets it,” and the bad custody judge is one who “looks the other way.” -Veronique Wyvell RN) Photograph clickable

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“The reality is that the ‘Good Dads’ settle these matters amicably.” -CP*

“The reality is that the ‘Good Dads’ settle these matters amicably.” -CP*
*Commentary by Charles Pragnell in “Sociopath Fathers : The ‘Charming’ Killers” ending with “It is to be hoped that society and Courts are able to more easily identify such sociopaths in the future and thereby provide the necessary protections for children and their mothers.” (Photograph clickable)

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A court ruling that contradicts the facts of the case . . .

A court ruling that contradicts the facts of the case . . .
...and recognizes eye-blinking as a relevant measurement of fitness to parent.

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Domestic Violence by Proxy: Why Terrorist Tactics Employed by Batterers Are Not "PAS" ... ~ The Leadership Council on Child Abuse & Interpersonal Violence 2009 ~

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“troy deel monster”*

“troy deel monster”*
*Search words googled by a visitor of this blog from IP address 75.75.106 on 22 June 2010

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Batterers such as Troy Deel are unlikely to share parenting*

Batterers such as Troy Deel are unlikely to share parenting*
*http://www.leadershipcouncil.org/docs/Truth_Commission_2007.pdf (Page 6/14)

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GOOD DADS DON’T ACT LIKE TROY DEEL

GOOD DADS DON’T ACT LIKE TROY DEEL
Brigitte and Mom on 14 July 2010 at the Rivercrest Swim Meet

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GOOD DADS DON’T ACT LIKE TROY DEEL Haunted by the truth this chronic trespasser on my motherhood says he will sue in email without subject, without substance Email #1 / Email #2 / Email #3 / Email #4 / Email #5 / Email #6 / Attachments, Aunt Dots

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Photo taken by mom, daughter taken by dad

Photo taken by mom, daughter taken by dad
“Brigitte has a mother who loves her very much,” and after six years of separation, I have a daughter who still loves me, much to the dismay of her disturbed father, Troy Deel. ~Veronique Wyvell on 11.11.2010

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An earlier life in pictures from a collection I call "My Pocketbook Album" . . .

An earlier life in pictures from a collection I call "My Pocketbook Album" . . .
…The album I regret was missing from my purse on July 14. It usually travels with me, in my purse, on days I go looking for Brigitte. So, Brigitte, if you are reading, click the picture above of us together for your 6th birthday to see “My Pocketbook Album” in pdf since I goofed up and forgot it when I left the house for Rivercrest that day I finally found you. I have many more photos I want to show you of your early life with your mother who has never, never stopped loving you. ~Posted by Veronique Wyvell on 18 Nov. 2010

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Pretend Phone, Pretend Mommy . . .

Pretend Phone, Pretend Mommy . . .
Troy Deel: “Rest assured, I will not be putting Brigitte in the middle of this in the future.” [Father of Brigitte, in a fax to her mother, Oct. 27, 2003]

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Troy Deel used this device to give his women pleasure . . .

Troy Deel used this device to give his women pleasure . . .
...The night I found him using it for the third time on my 15-month-old was our last together under his roof, yet my preference for iced chocolate milk would make me a pervert. The one food item my pregnant body did not reject by vomiting in eight months of hyperemesis gravidarum (complicated by potentially fatal preeclampsia) was labeled “a fetish” by Dr. William Zuckerman in his custody report. Zuckerman’s report would contain no discussion of the vibrator. See transcript of Deel testimony. -VW (Photograph clickable)

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Mother's savings -- not father's salary -- support baby Brigitte (We lived together) . . .

Mother's savings -- not father's salary -- support baby Brigitte (We lived together) . . .
…Dr. Zuckerman would also skip the subject of money in his $16,444.00 custody evaluation of the Deel-Wyvell (no marriage but we lived together) family. See transcript of Deel testimony. -VW (Image clickable)

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"If you're such a great father, why aren't you taking care of your son?" VW

"If you're such a great father, why aren't you taking care of your son?" VW
{Item #26} “Dr. Zuckerman overlooked the parent/child (often mother/child) separation issues and child abandonment issues which pervaded this case and were fundamental to an understanding of the conflict. The separation and abandonment themes are shockingly rampant in the recent history of this family: Troy Deel’s birthmother’s abandonment of him as a newborn when she left him on a stranger’s porch and their subsequent estrangement; Jackie Decker’s abandonment of her foster son and their subsequent estrangement, her foster son is Troy Deel; Troy Deel’s abandonment of his baby son (by Camen Shimer) and their subsequent estrangement; Carmen Shimer’s “kidnapping” of Troy Deel’s baby son and their subsequent estrangement from Troy Deel; Carmen Shimer’s father’s kidnapping of her from her mother and Carmen’s subsequent estrangement from her father (Carmen was reunited with her mother after 5 years of separation); finally, Lisa Ferry’s (Troy Deel’s current wife) abandonment of her newborn son in a convent after hiding there for the duration of her pregnancy and their subsequent estrangement. Dr. Zuckerman could not have been more negligent in his duty as a trained and experienced psychologist to identify and address unresolved conflict and to stop the monster that so much accumulated resentment has become as evidenced by the father’s obsessive drive to obliterate through litigation the mother (Veronique Wyvell) from their own daughter’s life. After all, the work of psychology is to explore human issues.” Item #26 above and Item #11 below were taken from the “Veronique Wyvell 34-Point/6-Page Official Statement of Heinous Behaviors and Atrocious Actions by Court Appointed Psychological Evaluator William Zuckerman in Troy Deel v. Veronique Wyvell, a Child Custody Evaluation” compiled on February 10, 2002 (and on file with VW). {Item #11} “At the time of the evaluation, Dr. Zuckerman’s daughters were refusing to speak with him because they sided with their mother whom he was divorcing. His troubled personal life should have ethically precluded him from evaluating custody disputes for others.”

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Troy Deel and court reporter scheme to sell Veronique rigged records . . .

Troy Deel and court reporter scheme to sell Veronique rigged records . . .
…Dastardly dad Troy Deel maintains a DOD/DSS Top Secret Level Personnel Security Clearance despite the premise that “[w]hen an individual’s life history shows evidence of unreliability or untrustworthiness, questions arise whether the individual can be relied on and trusted to exercise the responsibility necessary for working in a secure environment where protection of classified information is paramount,” however, clinical psychologist and forensic evaluator William Zuckerman would disregard all of my information and evidence in reference to Deel’s doctored court records by omitting every bit of that information and evidence from his custody report (http://www.dss.mil/disco/ps_faqs.html is source of quoted text). See transcript of Wyvell testimony and Wyvell letter to the head of the Court Reporters Association. -VW

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Troy Deel Sails Under False Colors

Troy Deel Sails Under False Colors
By order of the JDR court, I had full physical custody of Brigitte when Troy Deel registered her at Winwood; he had incomplete legal custody only. It is time for Troy “I’LL DO WHATEVER IT TAKES TO GET WHAT I WANT!” Deel to stop impersonating ME, Brigitte’s Right and Proper parent since the Fair and Square Judge Carr decision of May 1999, by pushing for all to see custody papers that are not in order, or maybe it is time for Troy “I’LL DO WHATEVER IT TAKES TO GET WHAT I WANT!” Deel to start moving to confirm the Incoherent, Unintelligible, Repugnant, and Completely Fraudulent Judge Vieregg decision of Nov. 2001. ~The devoted mother of a young victim of lawsuit abuse & foul play in the custody courts of Virginia~

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He never wanted me to have her. He wanted me to never know her. ~VW

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Batterers, Barratry, Bedlam and Boycotts

}THE JUDGE AS BATTERER (NO WONDER THAT, MORE THAN EVER BEFORE, WOMEN IN DOMESTIC VIOLENCE CASES EVERYWHERE ARE ON THE RUN, BOLTING WITH THEIR CHILDREN, IN A GLOBAL BACKLASH AGAINST BARRATRY AND A WORLDWIDE BOYCOTT OF THE BENCH): A SAMPLING OF 25 YEARS OF SUPPORTING LITERATURE [Click book cover for an ever growing list of authorities on The Bedlam]

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Available April 2010

“Women trapped in relationships with abusers come to expect horrendous misbehavior from their partners. What they cannot fathom is the maddening reinforcement commonly provided to abusive men by the justice system and the public at large. . . . That key abuse collaborator is the custody judge. Of all of the actors in a battered woman’s life, none wield more power over her children and financial future. It is beyond infuriating when women discover that their custody judges lack understanding of DV and are colluding with abusers to take away women’s financial resources and, even worse, their children.” --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- An excerpt from Why Do Judges Do That? by Judge Mike Brigner --------- in DOMESTIC VIOLENCE, ABUSE, AND CHILD CUSTODY Legal Strategies and Policy Issues by Editors Mo Therese Hannah PhD and Barry Goldstein JD* -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Order Now

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*Family courts, endangering children and punishing women

*Family courts, endangering children and punishing women
Order online Dr. Hannah's new collection by going to CivicResearchInstitute.com (Click image)

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“There is a crisis in the custody court system, which has resulted in thousands of children being sent to live with abusers while safe, protective parents, primarily mothers, are denied any meaningful relationship with their children. The court system has failed to respond appropriately to domestic violence and child abuse cases involving custody. The Commission found many common errors made by the courts and the professionals they rely upon which contribute to these tragedies.”

“The common theme that emerged from the testimony is that there is a widespread problem of abusive parents being granted custody of children and protective parents having their custody limited or denied, and/or being otherwise punished.”

“The situation of family courts endangering children and punishing women must be exposed in the media. State and national policymakers in all three branches of government and other allies must be advised of the problem of family courts placing children in the unsupervised custody of abusive parents, and be told that this is happening with alarming frequency.”

-Dr. Mo Therese Hannah, BMCC Chair and Truth Commission Coordinator, in report findings/solutions four years ago, in 2007

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Remember them in November

Click poster for Marsden Mute (nor did I ever hear back from Senators Howell and Cuccinelli and Delegate Valentine). -Veronique, Mother of Brigitte VIRGINIANS for the REPEAL of the 'BEST INTEREST OF THE CHILD' STANDARD

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Thursday, December 31, 2009

THE JUDGE AS BATTERER (NO WONDER MORE WOMEN IN DOMESTIC VIOLENCE CASES ARE ON THE RUN): A SAMPLING OF 25 YEARS OF SUPPORTING LITERATURE

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70% of abductions are by mothers

By Caroline Marcus
SYDNEY MORNING HERALD
March 4, 2007

MOTHERS are responsible for seven out of 10 international parental child abductions, an Australian study has found. And the most common reason for the abduction is flight from an abusive relationship.
The findings of the International Social Service Australia (ISS) report present a sharp contrast to the 1970s, when fathers were overwhelmingly the perpetrators of parental abductions.
The key findings of the paper, titled Learning From The Links Between Domestic Violence And International Parental Child Abduction, were released to The Sun-Herald ahead of the report's publication later this month.
The results revealed a huge cultural shift over the past three decades, ISS executive director Maria Brett said.
"In the 1970s, it was a different time and a different environment, and we saw a lot of unhappy men wanting more contact with their children resorting to abduction," she said.
"These days, there are more women in domestic violence cases abducting their children and taking them overseas."
In the 1970s, fathers were responsible for 80 out of 99 cases analysed in a previous study drawn on by the report. The mother was the abductor in 18 of those cases.
Yet in 1999 women made up 70 per cent of abductors in an analysis of 1080 applications under the 1980 Hague Convention, an international treaty set up to deal with child abductions.
Men comprised 29 per cent of abductors and the remaining 1 per cent included abductors of both sexes - grandparents or another relative.
In 78 per cent of cases, abducted children were younger than nine years old.

This article can be found at:
http://www.smh.com.au/news/national/70-of-abductions-are-by-mothers/2007/03/03/1172868811287.html#
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THE JUDGE AS BATTERER

A Sampling of 25 Years of Supporting Literature
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“Each time that I appeared in court, the system reinforced his dominance over me by preserving his parental ‘rights’ without regard to my safety. I felt totally undermined by the court.” -PW in Justice Denied

[ Chesler, 1991, 1986 ] MOTHERS ON TRIAL: THE BATTLE FOR CHILDREN AND CUSTODY. The book. Mothers were not rescued from individually violent men by policemen, social workers, lawyers, or other family members. Judges did not rescue mothers from violent men either. On the contrary, the (large number of) domestically violent fathers, including those who kidnapped their children, were not imprisoned, fined, or custodially punished. Of the 12 percent of the mothers who kidnapped their children (Table Two), 80 percent were imprisoned, fined, or custodially punished ... Sixty-two percent of the fathers used violence to win custody. They physically battered, psychologically terrorized, and physically ejected mothers from their homes; they kidnapped, and, with the help of mother competitors, brainwashed children ...

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Ducote, 1992 ] POST-SEPARATION FAMILY VIOLENCE RELIEF ACT. The legislation. The legislature further finds that the problems of family violence do not necessarily cease when the victimized family is legally separated or divorced. In fact, the violence often escalates, and child custody and visitation become the new forum for the continuation of the abuse. Because current laws relative to child custody and visitation are based on an assumption that even divorcing parents are in relatively equal positions of power, and that such parents act in the children’s best interest, these laws often work against the protection of the children and the abused spouse in families with a history of family violence. Consequently, laws designed to act in the children’s best interest may actually effect a contrary result due to the unique dynamics of family violence ...

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American Judges Association, 1996 ] DOMESTIC VIOLENCE & THE COURTROOM. The article. Studies show that batterers have been able to convince authorities that the victim is unfit or undeserving of sole custody in approximately 70% of challenged cases ...

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United States Congress, 1997 ] SAFE HAVENS FOR CHILDREN ACT OF 1997 - FINDINGS. The bill.
(1) Family violence does not necessarily cease when family victims are legally separated by divorce or otherwise not sharing a household.
(2) According to a 1996 report by the American Psychological Association, custody and visitation disputes are more frequent when there is a history of domestic violence.
(3) Family violence often escalates following separation and divorce, and child custody and visitation arrangements become the new forum for the continuation of abuse.
(4) According to a 1996 report by the American Psychological Association, fathers who batter mothers are twice as likely [as non-violent men] to seek sole custody of their children. In these circumstances,
if the abusive father loses custody he is more likely to continue the threats to the mother through other legal actions.
(5) Some perpetrators of violence use the children as pawns to control the abused party and to commit more violence during separation or divorce. In one study, 34 percent of women in shelters and callers to hotlines reported threats of kidnapping, 11 percent reported that the batterer had kidnapped the child for some period, and 21 percent reported that threats of kidnapping forced the victim to return to the batterer.
(6) Approximately 90 percent of children in homes in which their mothers are abused witness the abuse. Children who witness domestic violence may themselves become victims and exhibit more aggressive, antisocial, fearful, and inhibited behaviors. Such children display more anxiety, aggression and temperamental problems.
(7) Women and children are at an elevated risk of violence during the process of separation or divorce.
(8) Fifty to 70 percent of men who abuse their spouses or partners also abuse their children.
(9) Up to 75 percent of all domestic assaults reported to law enforcement agencies were inflicted after the separation of the couple.
(10) In one study of spousal homicide, over 1/2 of the male defendants were separated from their victims.
(11) Seventy-three percent of battered women seeking emergency medical services do so after separation ...

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Supreme Court of Virginia, 2000 ] GENDER BIAS IN THE COURTS OF THE COMMONWEALTH OF VIRGINIA. The study. [There is also a]n apparent lack of recognition by judges in both Juvenile & Domestic Relations court and in Circuit Court of ... (ii) the abuser’s use of legal processes to continue to manipulate and control the family. In fact, many abusers appear to be manipulating the court. In such cases, it is not sufficient to look only at the context painted by the abuser; it is necessary to view the proceeding currently before the court in the light of the other proceedings involving the parties (e.g., where the abuser constantly sues the victim, harasses her attorney and others who help her, threatens witnesses, or uses child visitation, custody and support issues as an excuse to bring the family back into court many times a year.) ...

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Silverman, 2001 ] AMERICAN PUBLIC HEALTH ASSOCIATION - THE IMPACT OF FAMILY COURTS ON BATTERED WOMEN AND THEIR CHILDREN IN CASES OF DISPUTED CHILD CUSTODY AND VISITATION: PRELIMINARY FINDINGS OF THE BATTERED MOTHERS’ TESTIMONY PROJECT. The paper. Family courts are frequently reported to promote the endangerment of battered mothers and their children through awarding child custody or unsupervised child visitation to batterers, even in cases involving batterers’ continuing abuse of the mother, and/or outstanding allegations of child abuse involving these men. Previous analyses of court records have documented biases against battered women by the Massachusetts Family and Probate Court in such cases. This systemic mistreatment of battered women and their children has received little attention relative to other DV issues, despite an expanding literature describing the risks to children from battering men. This presentation will review the goals and methodology of the Battered Mothers’ Testimony Project, a collaboration of public health researchers, battered women’s advocates and human rights workers to examine the impact of family court systems on the health, safety and well-being of battered women and their children in cases of disputed custody/visitation. Preliminary findings from semi-structured interviews with 50 battered mothers regarding (1) experiences of abuse against themselves and their children, both during the relationship and since separation; (2) whether and how the batterer has continued to intimidate/abuse her through family court litigation; (3) experiences with state actors of the family court system (e.g., judges, custody evaluators); and (4) other concerns regarding their treatment within the family court system (e.g., discrimination based on race, sexual orientation, and/or socioeconomic status) will be presented. Plans for dissemination of information, organizing and activism to reform state policies and practices based on these findings will also be discussed ...

[ Supreme Court of Virginia, 2001 ] INFLUENCES ON JUDGES’ DECISIONS IN CHILD CUSTODY DISPUTES IN THE COMMONWEALTH OF VIRGINIA. The study. “Pages 4, 6, 7, 20, 21, 23, 24, 29, 30, 38, 39, 40, 41, 53, 55, and 57 of this Supreme Court of Virginia 2001 study are especially relevant to the current trend of awarding custody of children to fathers who are abusive, violent, and dangerously controlling men, narcissists, and sociopaths …” -VW


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Bancroft, 2002 ] THE BATTERER AS PARENT: ADDRESSING THE IMPACT OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE ON FAMILY DYNAMICS (CHAPTER FIVE). Impeding Recovery: The Batterer in Custody and Visitation. The book. Batterers win custody of their children with greater frequency [than] is generally realized. Although it is widely believed that family courts have a bias in favor of mothers, custody studies have demonstrated that since the 1970's, fathers have been at a marked advantage in custody disputes. There is a general reluctance among family courts in the U.S. and abroad to consider a man's battering as a reflection on his parenting or a factor in determining custody ...

[ BMTP, 2004 ] BATTERED MOTHERS’ TESTIMONY PROJECT - Researchers Say Massachusetts Family Courts Fail to Protect Battered Women and Their Children; Study Applies Human Rights Analysis to Child Custody Cases Involving Domestic Violence. The project. “Battered mothers face a perilous irony,” said Silverman. “Authorities push these women to leave abusive men in order to protect their children. But women who can make this break then face family courts, another authority that often ignores this history of abuse as a threat to children’s safety and, perversely, concludes that women’s attempts to protect their children from these men actually demonstrate their own lack of fitness as mothers” ...

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Jaffe, 2005 ] JUDICIAL COUNCIL OF CALIFORNIA CENTER FOR FAMILIES, CHILDREN & THE COURTS - PARENTING ARRANGEMENTS AFTER DOMESTIC VIOLENCE: SAFETY AS A PRIORITY IN JUDGING CHILDREN’S BEST INTEREST. The article. Perpetrators [of domestic violence] may use perpetual litigation as a form of ongoing control and harassment. The family court can inadvertently become a tool for batterers to continue their abusive behavior. Litigation exacts a high emotional and financial price for abused women already overwhelmed with the aftermath of a violent relationship ... Indicators that this misuse is occurring include an investment in custody and/or access that is out of keeping with a parent's previous involvement in child rearing ...

[ Kiewra, 2005 ] HARVARD SCHOOL OF PUBLIC HEALTH - HARVARD PUBLIC HEALTH REVIEW: MISCARRIAGE OF JUSTICE. The article. The 40 women came from towns across Massachusetts and from all walks of life, yet their stories were the same -- shocking tales of battering and harassment at the hands of abusive ex-partners. Long after separation or divorce, the women said, their torment continued, aided and abetted by judges who gave unsupervised visitation and custody of their children to violent & controlling men …

[ Legal Momentum, 2005 ] LEGAL MOMENTUM ADVANCING WOMEN’S RIGHTS - DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AND CHILD CUSTODY. The kit. In no other area of family law are battered women and their children inadvertently subjected to greater physical and emotional harm than in the child custody and visitation context. Battered women are often forced to participate in custody arrangements that require mediation, unsupervised custody and visitation, and other types of exchanges that leave them and their children vulnerable to continued abuse and control at the hands of their batterers. Women who try to protect themselves and their children by seeking sole custody or modifications in custody arrangements such as cessation of visitation, supervised visits, or who flee with their children are penalized by having custody taken away and given to their batterers. Despite the perception that mothers always win custody, when fathers contest custody, they win sole or joint custody in 40% to 70% of the cases. Indeed, even in cases where abuse is reported, a batterer is twice as likely to win custody over a non-abusive parent than in cases where no abuse is reported …

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Neustein & Lesher, 2005 ] FROM MADNESS TO MUTINY: WHY MOTHERS ARE RUNNING FROM THE FAMILY COURTS--AND WHAT CAN BE DONE ABOUT IT. The book. "A groundbreaking new book that is perhaps the most highly readable scholarly work I’ve encountered in my 14 years in academia ... The very first to provide the historical and contextual chronology of this system’s steady decline into chaos and corruption over the past two decades. It is eminently accurate and rigorously documented -- a book that will hit scholars, professionals, and lay persons right between their eyes. This is the book that mothers have been waiting for ..." -Dr. "Mo" Hannah

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PBS, 2005 ] PUBLIC BROADCASTING SERVICE - BREAKING THE SILENCE: CHILDREN'S STORIES. The documentary. One of the most effective ways an abusive father can inflict pain and declare his domination is to take custody of his children away from their mother. As Joan Meier, an attorney and professor of clinical law, explains, “To win custody of the kids over and against the mother’s will is the ultimate victory ... short of killing the kids.” While there may be a perception in society that the family court system has a maternal preference, statistics show that, in the past twenty years, fathers are more often being awarded custody. Furthermore, in family court cases where mothers allege battery, fathers are given custody two-thirds of the time ...

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Griffin, 2006 ] PROTECTIVE PARENT REFORM ACT (Conceived and Drafted by Richard Ducote, Esq.). The legislation. In the state of Maryland, courts have committed grave errors in cases in which molested children have sought protection from an abusive parent. By failing to follow basic rules of procedure and evidence – in essence, by failing to follow due process of law – these courts have often ignored compelling evidence of abuse and – conversely – have allowed hearsay and other inadmissible evidence presented by children’s attorneys, custody evaluators, mental health professionals, mediators, screeners, and other such persons traditionally participating in child custody and visitation cases to guide the court in their custody and visitation rulings. In so doing, courts have too often inadvertently and tragically placed children in the hands of their molesters. Thus, reform is required in the state of Maryland, by way of the Protective Parent Reform Act (“PPRA”). This act is meant to ensure that a parent who reasonably believes that his or her child is threatened by child abuse perpetrated or allowed by the other parent is not punished by a Maryland court, or penalized by loss of custody, or limitation of contact or visitation ...

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Hannah, 2007 ] FOURTH BATTERED MOTHERS CUSTODY CONFERENCE - TRUTH COMMISSION FINDINGS AND SOLUTIONS. The report. [T]here is a widespread problem of abusive parents being granted custody of children and protective parents, [primarily mothers], having their custody limited or denied, and/or being otherwise punished ... [O]nce abusers gain custody, they then isolate and estrange the children from the protective parents. Courts seldom punish the abusers or switch custody back to the protective parents ... The court system has failed to respond appropriately to domestic violence and child abuse cases involving custody. The Commission found many common errors made by the courts and the professionals they rely upon which contribute to these tragedies ... Sanctions against abusers and the courts must be used to prevent abusers from using legal tactics to continue their abuse through the courts ...

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Saunders & Oehme, 2007 ] VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN - CHILD CUSTODY AND VISITATION DECISIONS IN DOMESTIC VIOLENCE CASES: LEGAL TRENDS, RISK FACTORS, AND SAFETY CONCERNS. The article. It may be hard to believe that an abusive partner can ever make good on his threat to gain custody of the children from his victim. After all, he has a history of violent behavior and she almost never does. Unfortunately, a surprising number of battered women lose custody of their children (e.g., Saccuzzo & Johnson, 2004). This document describes how this can happen through uninformed and biased courts, court staff, evaluators, and attorneys and how the very act of protecting ones' children can lead to their loss ...

[ Bowen, 2008 / also Ruiz, 2008 ] VOICES OF WOMEN ORGANIZING PROJECT - REPORT: ABUSED WOMEN SEE DANGER IN FAMILY COURT. The articles. Susan Lob says it's simple: Good mothers should keep their children. But Lob, director of the New York-based Voices of Women Organizing Project, says that doesn't always happen in the New York family court system when it's women who have been abused by their children's fathers. Instead, in a report released today, Voices of Women says family courts retraumatize battered women by forcing them to confront men they fear and granting custody to abusers 37 percent of the time despite the women's roles as primary caregivers. "What struck us was the impossibility of women losing custody to the men who abused them," said Lob. "That just seemed unbelievable." The group laid out four recommendations … Authors issued specific suggestions for each of the four recommendations, including increasing accountability for judges by halving 10-year judicial appointments to five-year terms and seeing children in courtrooms at least once a year to ensure custody decisions are benefiting them …

[ Meier, 2008 ] THE WASHINGTON POST - WHY THIS MOTHER WAS NOT HEARD. The editorial. Contrary to stereotypes, most divorcing mothers do not seek to deprive the children of their father. Most settle out of court. Only about 20 percent of cases become "contested custody litigation." It's not surprising that a large proportion of these "bitter custody disputes" involve violent or abusive fathers. It is time courts faced the truth: Custody litigants frequently have a history of abuse. Men who abuse their partners often pose a threat to their children. Most women seeking to restrict fathers' access to their children are doing so out of legitimate fear for their well-being. And too many children are delivered to dangerous fathers by family courts that prioritize fathers' "rights" over children's safety …

[ NCJFCJ, 2008 ] NATIONAL COUNCIL OF JUVENILE AND FAMILY COURT JUDGES - A JUDICIAL GUIDE TO CHILD SAFETY IN CUSTODY CASES. The bench cards. This tool is designed to maximize a child’s safety as you determine issues of custody and visitation and can help you … This tool will also assist you in conducting a thoughtful exploration of the child’s safety risks when abusive behavior has been part of the family fabric. Sometimes, the parties may not articulate clearly either the abuse or the child’s safety risks during litigation. Indicators may be present that require you to explore the possibility that one parent is putting the other parent or the child at risk of abuse. Because the abused parent might not directly raise issues of physical abuse or other forms of control, you will want to be aware of indicators of abusive behaviors that may alter the dynamics of the litigation process. This tool will explore the various behaviors that you might encounter, both from the controlling and abusive parent, and from the controlled and abused parent. Organization of the Bench Tool: This supplemental guide and the attached bench cards follow your decision-making from the initial filing through drafting and enforcing the order. While much of the material is presented in procedural order, there are also bench cards and chapters devoted to topics and issues that can arise throughout litigation. The authors suggest that you first read the cards as an introduction to the topics addressed. This supplement, to which the cards are keyed, offers additional information and suggests further resources at the end of the guide, and in footnotes ...

[ NOW, 2008 ] NATIONAL ORGANIZATION FOR WOMEN - CRISIS FOR WOMEN IN FAMILY COURT: WHAT TO EXPECT AND HOW TO FIGHT BACK. The brochure. There is a crisis for women and their children in many of the family law courts of this country. Affirmed by experts and skilled court watchers, the existence of this crisis is verified by women in every state who report injustice in their divorce and custody cases. This is true especially for battered mothers trying to protect their children from abusive fathers who aggressively litigate against them, using family courts to stalk, harass, punish, and impoverish their former partners and children. Some fathers are aided by friendly judges and court-appointed personnel …

[ BWJP, 2009 ] BATTERED WOMEN’S JUSTICE PROJECT - DEVELOPMENT OF A FRAMEWORK FOR IDENTIFYING AND EXPLICATING THE CONTEXT OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IN CUSTODY CASES AND ITS IMPLICATIONS FOR CUSTODY DETERMINATIONS. The project. BWJP has been invited to apply for a grant from the USDOJ Office on Violence Against Women
for a demonstration project to develop a framework to guide custody and visitation decisions in cases involving domestic violence. Research on custody and visitation determinations provide troubling evidence that procedures currently in use in family courts often fail to identify, contextualize and account for the occurrence of domestic violence in these cases, and if identified, its presence seems not to consistently affect the court’s recommendations regarding custody or visitation arrangements … The desired outcome of this project is to provide family courts with a process by which the violence occurring in these families is made visible, its context and the related safety issues are more clearly understood, and as a result, its implications for custody and parenting plan arrangements can be taken into account more effectively to protect the emotional and physical well-being of the litigants and their children. The project will be funded for two years and is scheduled to begin in the summer of 2009 …

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Bancroft, 2009 ] CHILD CUSTODY JUSTICE. The tutorial. An abused woman can be vulnerable in family court if she comes in with unfounded expectations. Perhaps the most widespread myth is the belief that mothers are favored by courts in custody disputes, which stopped being true decades ago. It is true that for roughly the first half of the 1900's the "Tender Years Doctrine" was influential, and mothers had some advantage in gaining custody of young children. (Prior to about 1900, mothers had no rights regarding custody at all.) But in the 1970's the tide was turning back, for various reasons, and by the 1980's fathers were winning at least joint custody in a majority of the custody battles they undertook, and winning sole custody more often than mothers, a situation that remains today. And the fathers who are taking advantage of this imbalance are largely abusive ones; researchers have found that abusers are twice as likely as non-abusive men to seek custody …

[ Eddy, 2009 ] HIGH CONFLICT INSTITUTE - HANDLING DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IN NEW WAYS FOR FAMILIES. The institute. Domestic violence is an area of growing concern in family courts, as highlighted by the 2007 Wingspread Conference and Report sponsored by the Association of Family and Conciliation Courts (AFCC) and National Council of Juvenile and Family Court Judges (NCJFCJ). Differentiating among at least four different types of domestic violence is recognized as very important, yet in reality the adversarial court process often clouds these issues more than clarifies them … Historically, family law professionals have not recognized the significance of domestic violence risks in some cases and have exaggerated concerns in others. In the process, some partners and children have been seriously injured or killed, while other children have lost a meaningful relationship with one of their parents because of unnecessarily-restrictive parenting orders …

[ Cuccinelli, 2010 ] OFFICE OF THE ATTORNEY GENERAL OF VIRGINIA - CUT OUT DOMESTIC VIOLENCE: WHY DO VICTIMS STAY? The fact sheet. People often believe that victims of domestic violence will be safe if they just leave the batterer. But a battered person is not free to separate from an abuser at any time and there are many barriers to leaving. The biggest reason that a victim of domestic violence stays in an abusive relationship is fear. Victims believe, and the evidence has shown, that leaving is potentially the most deadly time … Barriers also may include: Fear that the children will be taken away – Batterers threaten that they will take the children (either legally or illegally) if the victim dares to leave the relationship …

[ Hannah & Goldstein, 2010 ] DOMESTIC VIOLENCE, ABUSE, AND CHILD CUSTODY: LEGAL STRATEGIES AND POLICY ISSUES. The collection. “Women trapped in relationships with abusers come to expect horrendous misbehavior from their partners. What they cannot fathom is the maddening reinforcement commonly provided to abusive men by the justice system and the public at large ... That key abuse collaborator is the custody judge. Of all of the actors in a battered woman’s life, none wield more power over her children and financial future. It is beyond infuriating when women discover that their custody judges lack understanding of DV and are colluding with abusers to take away women’s financial resources and, even worse, their children.” -MB ( Available April 2010 but here's a preview )

... My mother is a formerly battered woman who is the first American to receive asylum in Europe. My brother and I were abused children who were failed by ... -Jennifer Collins

Veronique Wyvell, RN
Member, Fairfax County Network Against Family Abuse
Founder, MOMMY GO BYE BYE: Mothers Against Unjust Law
7831 Enola Street, #TA7, McLean, Virginia 22102

MAUL (Mothers Against Unjust Law) Goals:
Rebuttable PRESUMPTIONS Against Custody for Batterers
PPAs (Parenting Plan Agreements) before Litigation
Moratorium on CCEs (Child Custody Evaluations)
MINIMUM Parent-Time Schedules (UTAH Code)
JURY Trials (in Domestic Relations Cases)
PROTECTIVE Parent Reform Acts
DIGITAL Courtroom Records
ALI's Approximation Rule
TERM LIMITS for Judges
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